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Mourning

This is a little long winded and personal. Please forgive me. It's been exactly one year since my great aunt passed away - she was a pillar of the family, a very intelligent and witty woman whom we all loved. She used to cut out stories from the newspaper/ magazines and mail them to me while I lived away, and she had the most incredible handwriting I’ve ever seen. She was, to use one of her favorite things to call me, a “real mensch.” Less than 48 hours after that, I got broken up with. We had been dating for almost two years. It was the healthiest relationship I had ever been in. Yet, we were laying in my teenage bedroom at my parents house, and she was crying. All I remember is thinking to myself “FIGHT for her you DUMB MOTHERFUCKER, you CAN’T lose another woman” - but I didn’t. I was scared. And just like that, the best year of my life came crashing down in spectacular fashion. Two extremely hard hits at once. I had to keep moving forward. I didn’t see any alternative. And as a result, I sank into what I can only describe as my own death spiral. Lots of cigs, lots of booze, lots of work, all to drown out the voices in my head telling me “maybe this isn’t a good idea.” I didn’t allow myself to MOURN then. To feel sad, to feel loss, and to work it out constructively and communally. Now, a year later, I’m finally allowing myself to feel those emotions about both of those things. Finally crawling out of that death spiral. Mourning isn’t weakness, nor is grief. Just…if you haven’t properly mourned something, anything, I recommend allowing yourself to. Keeping something like that inside, no matter how compartmentalized it may be, is a bad idea.

@haydenaugust

5d ago

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talking about death

this is something i feel really strongly about to improve all of our lives and grieving processes. especially for Americans, it’s an enduring taboo that talking about death is too dark, too bummer, too disturbed. i think this renders all of us without a roadmap or community when, inevitably, someone dear to us dies. practicing talking about it, building a distress tolerance to it, learning about other people’s experiences with death, are all some of the things that have helped me the most since my brother’s death. it truly is the most universal great mystery and i think we’d all be better for it to walk through it together. ❤️

@bigstrongguy

Feb 14, 2025

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mourning the loss of information

reading about the 2008 UMG fire which destroyed the masters of a thousand plus musicians, like a musical library of alexandria. what can be more human than mourning the loss of information? it’s a fear! isn’t that beautiful?

@alicealeph

Dec 23, 2023

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this app

extremely comforting to have a social media platform where the prevailing emotion is love and enthusiasm, wonderful to see everything my friends love and wonderful to express the love in my heart to like-minded souls

@mtavictim

Dec 21, 2023

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Using 2/5 of your invites on your parents

because they’re young and hip and would absolutely devour this app

@mtavictim

Dec 22, 2023

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Anything by phil elverum

Especially the album Microphones in 2020. The kind of music that makes me feel like no matter what I do my art will be worth it all (which is on average true) and that it will always be a part of my life (alongside the sentiment that, just by surviving, I am creating art)

@mtavictim

Dec 21, 2023