if it happens multiple times and feel like if i have to keep forcing the conversation we’re probably not a fit. when i go on a good date i never think about that at all because the conversation just keeps going. shit happens, back to the drawing board
Feb 22, 2024
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There's this weird fine line right before oversharing, a certain amount of time past the initial pleasantries on a first date where it's actually really awesome to bring up the serious things about yourself, and if done the right way breaks through the ice, inviting an actual sort of intimacy to exist and inviting the other person to actually tell you about themselves. Don't go too crazy though. You can kind of just say "fuck it" and be really honest. People will be surprised and you will usually get a second date.
Sep 17, 2024
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this might not all apply to you, but sometimes if I overthink social interactions in general, I end up missing out on what could have been a really good conversation. I usually like to ask myself what I’m genuinely curious about/want to know about a specific person and let my questions lead into a more fruitful discussion. worst case scenario is that don’t take the bait and then the conversation ends, but most of the time I find people like talking about themselves, which can lead to something y’all have in common.
I also don’t put pressure on myself to “make a friend” after one interaction. some people require crumbs of interactions before they start to let you in!
Mar 27, 2024
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speaking from experience, it’s totally fine to follow up even after a bit of time has passed. especially if you both communicated about going out again in the future, it’s reasonable to expect a confirmation or some accountability if their interest has changed for whatever reason.
that being said, if lack of consistency becomes a pattern after reaching out or even after meeting up again, this indicates a deeper issue on the other person, and you’d probably be better off spending your time and energy on someone who will meet your need for communication and be reliable. you arent wrong for having the instinct to check back on plans that were made, even if tentative.
Feb 28, 2024
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leaves you susceptible to dating someone for too long because they play a role rather than it being about who they are. if you go in open to every situation, it will play out as its supposed to naturally (sometimes with a little nudge)
Aug 4, 2024
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literally every single series has been great so far except BOS/MIA & CLE/ORL. we really in for a treat
Apr 23, 2024
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go drink some right now
it’s good for your body and skin and has magical healing properties when consumed at the right times. currently it’s helping me beat a hangover
Dec 29, 2024