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as iām moving through life and moving through different relationships iāve realised that i really just crave meaningful connection. no matter under what label or circumstance i meet someone, i want to feel like i matter.
i feel, sometimes, so hopeless in this goal of making meaningful connections bc so many people that ive been friends with have turned out to be worse people than i thought them to be. whether its them changing into someone i donāt recognise, or showing true colours when we discuss values, i just am at a point where i really struggle to form relationships.
but theres a few people in my life who i just have to think about and immediately my mind lights up!
i find that i can have a bit of an all or nothing attitude. that is, i had a shit day therefore iāve always had shit days and will forever have shit days, or like now, i struggle making meaningful connections therefore none of my connections have been, are, or will ever be meaningful
maybe itās just past 9pm and i should go sleepā¦
Apr 18, 2024
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I met with a friend yesterday that I havenāt seen or really spoken to in months. We discovered that during the month of January we both endured similarly painful experiences of being wanted my someone and wanting them in return, only to have that person take everything back within the span of a couple days.
Itās a really confusing and jarring feeling and itās like mourning something that hasnāt even had the chance to begin. During this conversation We reflected a lot on our generation (mid twenties) and how apathetic so many people have become. When did it become a crime to want and be wanted??
As much as Iāve been finding myself and have been on a real journey of self fulfillment lately, I still find myself aching with the loss of this person, or maybe the feeling this person gave me. I wish that someone could love me in the way that I love. I wish oversharing wasnāt a word in our vocabulary and that we could speak freely and from the heart at all times. Im so done being casual and nonchalant and apathetic; I care so much I canāt stand it.
Feb 8, 2025
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Something to think about is why you might not feel a deep connection to anyone. For me, itās because I donāt do enough to meet new people and because I donāt feel comfortable sharing with people I do know. I make a lot of jokes and keep things on a surface level. And of course there are psychological reasons for that.
Does everything have to be meaningful? Not at all! I think there are a lot of posts here about deep, meaningful feelings, but those posts arenāt so different from people staging photos and using filters on instagram. people choose how they want to present themselves on the internet. I, for one, wouldnāt tell anyone in person the things Iām writing to you! So donāt compare yourself to others, especially online representations of others!
But, do try to meet new people and do things you enjoy. You only can find āyour peopleā if you actively look for them.
Jan 25, 2025
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In a world and in a political landscape where it is so easy to despair, looking into the eyes of another human being and really listening while they speak means so much. The more you seek connection with others, the more opportunities for joy and belonging will open up to you. It is so easy to feel downtrodden, isolated and afraid nowadays. My own tendencyĀ to isolate in times of stress and sadness has often left me little energyĀ to think outside of myself and my immediate circle. There are times to turn inward, but it is so much more valuable when those times ofĀ reflection are met with connection. I, like so many, have had unhealthy ways of coping with my own traumas and grief, my insecurities and broken heart. Over the last year, I have put in real work to better myself, to respect myself, and in garnering this renewed self-love, I've found I have more to give tenfold. Eating well and moving my body really does wonders, gives me more energy and inspirationĀ to take care of myself, and by proxy those around me. I suddenly want to read more, cook more, engage in more meaningful conversation, take on new projects with friends that will enrich our lives.
I've been feeling so existential and sentimental recently, in an extreme way I've never experienced before, because it is paired with the efforts I've made to treat myself differently and better. For the first time in what feels like a very long time, I actually find myself wanting to make the most of my life, of life in general, instead of lying in wait for some invisible, impending threat,Ā or even merely waiting for things to maybe work out in an acceptable, tepid way someday. I want to make the most of everything. I think this is the key to sustained happiness and hopefulnessāālistening to what your body wants, treating it as well as you can, and using the stamina you achieve to connect with others and be present in the world. It may all be doomed, but I still see beauty around me simply by not turning away from it anymore, enough beauty to really, really believe that it is such an exquisite accident to be alive.Ā
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iāve thought about this a lot and i think the easiest way to meet new people organically is to join communities or become a regular somewhere! i have yet to achieve this myself so i canāt give any significant advice but fingers crossed for both of us!!
Apr 30, 2024
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are people jumping on a depression trend, or have we created such a harsh environment for people to live in and navigate that they seek relief from media to cope with issues they have no power over?
Apr 21, 2024
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as much as i hate this answer, going outside and strolling around always makes me feel better! if i canāt do that opening a window and getting some light in is also a good help!
Apr 21, 2024