This weekend i left town at 4 am to roadtrip to (redacted big city) with my mom then just did a deep dive of towns in the metropolitan area. Having her with me was incredible. She knew to approach friendly strangers at gas stations and barber shops about how good of areas are these.
Then after gaining so much intel and hunting down so many rental signs. We grabbed dinner with some friends i have out in this area, 2 more people i also lean on quite a bit. To my surprise we didnāt talk extensively about the hunt for places to the degree i assumed we would. Afterwards i went to a party with my friends and chatted with a friend of my friends about me working on making the leap.
I still have ways to go but have started to hear about people i know through a person who knows a person who knows a person who have job openings whom live over there and other rental properties that have popped up.
Basically alot of jotting info down, being proactive, and talking with people about it. Has been the move in making progress. And crossing my fingers i land what i want.
Feb 10, 2025
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my partner and i were presented with the opportunity to move into a friendās slightly larger and more amenitied apartment up the block, but weād have to break our lease to do so lol
listed our apartment on facebook marketplace to see if anyone was interested in signing the lease so we could move, essentially just putting out feelers and seeing what happened. did not expect to receive dozens upon dozens of messages! i scheduled tours and showed like six people around, all of whom were like where can i sign! and i called our landlord twice.
met with the landlord of the new place and got the paperworkā¦.. truly in the final stepsā¦. only to get home and realize, you know what,,, weāre staying here! and it was literally such a relief to say it.
did it take hundreds of messages from people begging for me to leave my apartment to truly viscerally process that iāve got a good thing? perhaps!
but i think it was more that i had been in a scarcity mindset of like, āwhen we move and i have more space iāll be able toā¦ make the art i want; really feel at home; feel more comfortable; etc.ā and when i really dug into those feelings about it, i simply knew that my home right now presents a growth opportunity to work creatively with the space i have.
didnāt want to admit to myself that i was in that space of forcing things because i initially just wanted to move so badly, i was literally bypassing my felt experience and like, true reactions.
i also felt like it fell into our laps and was this once-in-a-lifetime thing. but really trying to now reinforce that a two bedroom w a dishwasher, balcony, and some bedrooms that look out onto the neighborsā walls is not inimitable. and i want to approach this process from a space where im resourced and generally tranquil.
so iām happy and iām not moving and im going to buy myself an $8 latte this morning to celebrate!!!!
Apr 25, 2024
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currently live a car ride away from ~everything which is making me feel very sad and isolated. the public transit situation is pretty rough too. iām excited to be where i can just walk to fun and new and interesting places.
but first, i have to figure how one locates and secures an apartment on their own...
Mar 23, 2024
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This doesnāt apply to my current situation at all (lots of cool mfs in ATL), but itās a good idea in theory. Cheaper rent sounds epic
Nov 2, 2024
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If you are living in the right country or have a VPN i recommend this movie. Visually gorgeous with some fun generations spanning flashbacks. Felt very Greta Gerwig inspired. As well, the queer Canadian childhood plotline shifted the palette and tone to something more akin to the first act of I Saw The TV Glow. Pleasantly charming surprise hidden by a lack of U.S distribution.
Put Amrit Kaur in more movies she is incredible.
Feb 14, 2025
I go way back to remembering her as a backup vocalist for Alessia Cara in 2018, and have been obsessed with her recent work including her debut album āStay In Touchā and a self-titled EP with a band sheās in named Dweller.
Can We Be Still is the first song sheās released since the Dweller EP in 2023 and it is such a calm and soft song about friendship.
Feb 7, 2025
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Imaginal Disk by Magdalena Bay
Call Me If You Get Lost by Tyler, The Creator
Home Video by Lucy Dacus
Bewitched by Laufey
The Pains of Growing by Alessia Cara
Self titled by Lianne La Havas
Ow by Pom Pom Squad
Self titled Dweller EP
Juno by Remi Wolf
Punisher by Phoebe Bridgers
Teaser and the Firecat by Yusuf
Patched Up by Beabadoobee
Whats Going On by Marvin Gaye
Kid A by Radiohead
Feb 20, 2025