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The biggest lesson of this year?

what helped me grow a lot this year was getting a huge boost of trust and being able to outgrow myself. my lesson: trust first and learn from it afterward. try to let go of the urge to control everything.

@mariesbz

Jan 1, 2025

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Getting scammed

You trusted someone with your money or your heart or both, and then that person surprises you by fucking you over. fuck! This sucks a lot and might mess you up pretty bad and make you lose faith in people, but on the other side there is the potential for new found strength as you now have *experience*. Trusting people is such an essential thing, so after getting scammed when you eventually find ways to trust people again, you’ll do it with a better sense of who to give it to and how much to give and when. That’s a powerful thing, and not easy to understand until you’ve been burned. Keep trusting, keep getting burned, but hopefully a little less so each time.

@gabe

Feb 15, 2024

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Practice

It’s a skill that only gets less scary with practice. Do it with people you won’t ever see again, and do small things! As you get more confident then you can level up to bigger conflict. Like, it’s really amazing how much things aren’t that big of a deal. Anxiety makes it seem to us like we’re unsafe for stating our needs. My journey was one that included a lot of therapy, which if you look at my stuff I recommend a lot. I was always very willing and able to stand up for others, but not myself, so I did a lot of questioning “if this was someone else, would I be okay with it?” and imagining that I was standing up for younger me. Often times over the top people pleasing was a survival tool that was needed, but isn’t any more. Also… realize you don’t have to be a bitch. Asking for respect and your needs to be met isn’t bitchy. Does that mindset stop you from standing up for yourself? Conflict can be very simple, straightforward, and respectful. If someone goes off on you, that’s their issue. And that’s something that helped me a lot too- other people’s reactions weren’t entirely because of me. If someone reacted poorly, I could also draw boundaries with how I’m being treated. Pretty cool. Makes me feel like I can handle anything. Lastly, I worked as a caseworker with DCFS for a few years and that really helped me in the long run. I had to work with and try to help people that hated me, and I learned a lot. While I don’t recommend anyone work for DCFS bc it’s a shit system, being forced to experience conflict so much did the trick.

@mossyelfie

Jul 22, 2024

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Faye Webster

I love Faye Webster, because her music sounds like the beach, and she uses this sounds that seems to come straight from Spongebob. Every song is warm and touches me to the heart. I also would like to mention her absolutely perfect hair. Best songs in my opinion: -Come to Atlanta -Jonny -But Not Kiss -Lifetime -Kind of

@gunshy0000002

Apr 25, 2024

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red onion

The best onion. I'm eating it right now. It's perfect because it has beautiful color, and it has strong onion taste while being sweet at the same time. My favourite snack from childhood that I still eat today is red onion and butter sandwich.

@gunshy0000002

Apr 25, 2024

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balzac and agnes varda

I love Balzac's work, it's an extraordinary psychological and sociological study of rural France, while also being an extremely engaging read, even heartbreaking at times. I also enjoy Varda's movies, for their simplicity and raw honesty, highly highly recommand

@gunshy0000002

May 6, 2024