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Live with heartbreak for a while. It‘ll be different but the same. You’ll forget why and then remember and feel it all over again. Delete their pictures but keep them in a secret folder on your phone so you can cry by yourself watching their face smile at you.
Re-learn old habits you’ve forgotten you even enjoyed because you strayed so far away from who you once were.
In some odd way you’ll have to re-learn happiness, too. Well, not so much re-learning it but changing its meaning, find new ways to feel fulfilled, the same way you once felt with them.
Make some more lame playlists with oddly specific titles so you at least feel like you’re making something out of all the quiet pain you feel inside.
And wonder. A lot of wondering. All the time. Everywhere. In your house. At your job. Inside your body and next to you in the bed you once woke beside them, smiling.
And you’ll never forget, but it will get painfully easier.
May 7, 2024
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i wish we could meet irl and distract from our broken hearts a little bit by doing things together and hug.
im experiencing the same thing rn (devastating and out of the blue) and it helps me write down everything, every thought, word, idea, emotion that i feel i need to write it down.
i’ve seen my friends every day, i’ve watched movies, i’ve read a lot. i know it feels like it’s not going to get better but i promise it will. is reminding yourself that everything passes, let all the emotions pass through you. it’s reminding yourself that -new and goods things are coming to you- though i know it’s really hard and painful to think abt yourself in a future where that person is no longer there. :-(
i understand how painful time passes, how painful it is to think about that person and all the attached memories, but it’s time to think about all the new memories YOU are going to create, that life is painful but not that much, it’s time to cry it all, and to get things done. little by little, days pass and the pain will start to fade away, sometimes you’ll be alright, sometimes you won’t, but is all part of the process.
i’m sorry you are experiencing that horrible thing called heartbreak, i hug u wherever you are. 🫂
Apr 18, 2024
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I like to remember that time is on your side, it will get easier as time goes by just for nature of it. So focusing on going through the day-to-day the best you can while being kind to yourself and letting the days past is what helped me.
It’s not easy, you have to go through the grief to come up on the other side.
But stick with the things that make your present more bearable and you WILL come up on the other side.
For me it was doing things for myself: listening to music, visiting close friends, cooking for myself, going on walks on nature, spending time alone and bored and finding new things I liked and enjoying my own company was life changing.
The loneliness is rough but it can be a great teacher (at least I like to think something had to come out of all that pain).
I guess it really depends on the break up the narratives you are telling yourself right now, but if you can be mindful about them, observe them, and let go of trying to understand and control everything they get less cruel. Right now you just need to survive and receive some kindness, later on you can build the story around it (Without the fog of the pain around it).
And for the love of god cut contact with them, their family and friends, at least for a while. rebuild yourself outside their zone of influence. Show vulnerability if you can, it can bring great support and lending ears, BE KIND TO YOURSELF (although have in mind sometimes over indulgence is not kind).
You will get through it, time is on your side.
Apr 18, 2024
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for me it has been helpful to frame it as getting through heartbreak rather than over - i’ve felt it is more of a journey rather than having an identifiable threshold or fixed point of being “over” the person. so - these are my main recommendations for things to do to get through the heartbreak:
this isn’t true for everyone, but for me and most people i know, one of the worst things for processing is being around the person a bit right after—it‘s like making your emotional process and brain not be on the same page—so space is probably the #1 thing i recommend as being useful to fully processing that you’re not together romantically.
music (also films/shows too) can help you feel seen and understood—heartbreak is a unique type of hurt. i have like 3-4 playlists from different heartbreaks i have been thru lol!
journaling, to process your emotions solo, though sometimes adding a therapist is needed!
hobbies (solo or with friends) so you can find ways to do positive & engaging things in your increased spare time! spend some extra time being in love with yourself. ❤️🩹
source: my personal misfortunes, trials, & tribulations in love
May 22, 2024
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I highly recommend taking your time to appreciate your friends. Just when you think you are getting used to their company, take a step back and analyze your friends’ face, the details, the eyes, the smile.
You‘ll find that is a really good feeling, enjoy :)
Mar 16, 2024