...read that from a friend when I turned 30, so passing on this advice, but also to think of personal wealth as life experience, like being more aware of what you like and what you don't, thus able to avoid unpleasant situations or know your worth more, as a person. Basically, you are more immune to bullshit now, welcome! And a happy happy birthday!
Also - exercise kind of becomes important now, take stairs, stretch your muscles if you're on the computer for awhile. Move around more. Your later years will thank you lol
Jun 6, 2024
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It feels like more money, more problems. Body parts hurt and donāt heal right away. Yeah you have heartburn, a handful of friends, and they all live far away. You question life choices, finally start figuring out what the hell youāre supposed to be doing.
But you also find peace, get more comfortable in your own skin. You can see through the bullshit, can recognize the people who are genuine.
Your 30s are like your 20s. Your brain wonāt see the difference, youāll just know when you look around and think āhey, this isnāt so badā.
Jan 8, 2025
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Iāve taken some time to think about this, because so much I could say feels circumstantial.Ā Ā But hereās what Iāve come to:
Iām still technically early 30ās, but one thing Iāve noticed from myself and friends is a higher level of intentionality.Ā Ā There is an inherent drive to deepen bonds that are worth it, and moving energy away from those that are draining.Ā Ā In order to do that, you have to be intentional about building those connections.Ā Ā All my friends are busy, myself included, so we carve out time to spend together and make sure that happens at least monthly.Ā Ā I actually host a monthly game night which is intentionally very laid back and an opportunity to just have fun, because I know we all need it!Ā Ā I still make connections with new people, but there has to be a little something there for me to put my time and energy into creating something more.
I also found my focus shifting from short term to long term.Ā Ā That was uncomfortable for me.Ā Ā While Iām still a very in the moment person, I started actually thinking about how I wanted my life to look not just right now, but years from now.
Itās true that youāll get a lot of clarity on who you are.Ā Ā I just am who I am, and Iām not trying things out anymore.Ā Ā That doesnāt mean Iām not open and curious and playful, but at my core Iām solid.Ā Ā Either people vibe with that or they donāt, itās not personal to me. I donāt need to be liked by everyone, and I donāt need to like everyone.
Working on yourself is essential. We all have issues, most of them arenāt our fault, but it is our responsibility to work on them.Ā Ā We also all have core issues that will never fully go away, but can get better.Ā Ā Healing is a spiral and weāre never fully done.Ā Ā Life is healing, integrating, enjoying the new level, then leveling up again!
My 20s very much felt like a portal and now my 30s are feeling like a much different kind of one. Welcome to the club and HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! š„³
Jun 7, 2024
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Happy birthday! You have a great batch of years ahead of you, the best yet. I'm biased, but it's been my favorite decade so far (every year is better than the last, the idea of "peaking" is for chumps). Some thoughts!
Group trips - when you say "we should go to X someday," or "we should rent a house" "we should do a day trip to this cool thing or this sculpture garden" actually do it. Blow up the group text, have everyone agree on a day or week or a weekend and make it happen. People will start thinking about "settling down" and "having families" which makes everything that much harder to plan (depending on who your friends are -- I have friends with kids who still do it all). But do those trips, because they're really fun.
Cooking - get some nice staple kitchen stuff and start cooking. Cook for yourself, for dates, for friends, cook together.
It's ok to let go - Don't burn bridges if it's not toxic, but it's ok to let friendships fade if you've outgrown them and it's ok to recognize them for what they are. Sometimes you will grow together and sometimes you will grow apart. It's alright to let someone become an acquaintance. It can also be very hard to accept, but know that whatever you feel, it's ok.
Old friends - some people have known me through so many different phases of my life. Cherish those old friendships, and make the effort to deepen them. Keep doing those long phone calls, take a weekend to spend together, travel to see a concert together, be there for birthdays and other life events. Those relationships are really special. Same goes for family if that's possible.
Stay curious - you're on this app, so you're already curious. Keep reading, watching, hobbymaxxing. Keep trying things on and checking things out to see if you like them. Learn new stuff. That's not just for your thirties, that's for life.
Stretch and take care of your body - itās your precious vessel. That's also for life.
Jun 6, 2024
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it's totally cool to age and society still isn't equipped to deal with that.
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Sometimes you try your best and everything seems to hit the fan no matter how much you try, so you take that raincheck and take yourself out for a day.
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This is what I call it hahahah made by mums everywhere but the greased up version is sold along stalls in Mumbai. Two regular slices of white bread, buttered, and the middle filling is cream cheese with red onions, coriander/cilantro, tomatoes and some minced chillis. All veggies chopped mini cube size so they blend with the cheese. Toasted crispy.
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