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Lean into 80‘s/early 90’s

love pieces like this with a story and sentimental value. I’ve gotten rid of things before like this and only regretted it. First thought was to lean into the 80’s and think about shows like Absolutely Fabulous or Golden Girls. Pair with bigger pants, a low heel, and lots of jewelry. Colorwise, think you have to go white/black and let the jacket be the focus, or the opposite and just maximize color so the black collar isn’t so dominant. Wear it open with a more revealing/lace top. for more casual, think punk. Your mini skirt and tights sound amazing with black boots, band tshirt/top underneath and silver jewelry.

@Shadowbeni

Jun 5, 2024

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yeah, layer

I'm a fan of big pants, but for the top portion... button up, sweater, maybe even throw in a light jacket as a midlayer. Or you could always take it in the elegant, old, costumey direction... Or go for margot tenenbaum with one of those lacoste polo dress things... or just go weird with it and wear all your craziest pieces

@danhakimi

Feb 11, 2024

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rough up a dress

I identify with this very much and am still trying to figure it out, but this is a sneakers outfit I put together and liked: dress that’s maybe a little too much for daytime+leather jacket+sneakers (sorry, best pic I’ve got) I could see this working with pretty much any dress and any sneakers.

@katenorris

Feb 23, 2024

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As a ghost:

To start—> I don’t want this to come off as trauma dumpy, I am v happy with the person Ive grown into. Who I wouldn’t be if I didn’t have these experiences:) I’ve moved around so so so much especially as a kid. I used to feel v guilty bc there were a lot of friends I left behind bc of circumstances beyond my control. This pattern became a trend that continued throughout my life. Went to 4 high schools; was going thru a lot, and was referred to as a ghost. Having someone you didn’t even realize knew who u were say “omg! It’s been a year! We thought you’d died, wow, how are you? Yk a lot of people tried to reach out…etc” completely changed my perspective on the world. I didn’t even realize the possibility I was really noticed outside of my immediate friend group. Another case happened this year at university. I was chatting w someone from a class, their friends walk up to say hi, and one says “your name is Sophia right?” I said yes and assumed I’d just met her while drunk at a show. So I apologized, and asked her name/ where she was from and all that jazz. It got more awkward when she said we went to the same school growing up, same class and everything. I didn’t recognize her at all, but obviously she knew me, it was so bizarre. Continued to see her around campus nearly every day for the rest of the year Lolz. It didnt all actualize for me until recently, and still makes my head spin. I can’t imagine how many people I unintentionally became a ghost to :// being perceived is crazyyyy

@phianeversleeps

May 24, 2024

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Give yourself Grace

In this regard, to what I like to call a funk. I feel très dookie. Lots of change in my life, and in times of instability I tend to fall off the horse- in a major way. Like many ppl. This past go round I have been excessively hard on myself over my general lacking in… well almost everything. Ive come to the conclusion that there are times you have to give yourself more grace than you’d like to. Maybe the pity party can last a couple more days than usual. I won’t go into details, bc as those of you reading who have dealt with mental health struggles, it can be sort of gross. Sure. There’s a ton I could be doing to put an end to my funk. Make more of an effort to dig myself out of the hole. But, at the end of the day I know I will come out of the funk in my own time. Faking myself out, and convincing myself I’m feeling better serves no one. Making yourself feel worse over feeling bad in the first place is just wildly counterproductive. Just keep moving forward in time. There’s a lot of it <3

@phianeversleeps

Jun 2, 2024

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Tree climbing

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@phianeversleeps

May 29, 2024