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Now I know it’s the love of my life. I think there is a lesson in all this..
I also don’t trust people whom aren’t sending me yarden pics
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Ok this might sound weird, but sometimes when I’ve felt really betrayed and hurt it’s easy to feel “no one is good or kind, everyone will hurt me” or “There’s no point there’s no one good out there.” But NO! I remember that I am good and I am kind! And wait so is my best friend?! And so is this friend…and that friend! And oh yeah my sister is kind! And so is her husband! and then I remember that yes there do exist people that are good and kind and wouldn’t try to hurt me (you yourself are proof of this!). there are so many people in our lives that we trust not to hurt us intentionally, but we mostly only seem to realise it’s a brave risk when it’s romantic. but look there are so many relationships youve trusted in, and that trust has been well placed. There are good people out there, you just gotta find one you wanna snog.
Apr 1, 2024
now i am a very lucky person because i am in love with some who was once one of my best friends. (sadly this rec probably isn’t universally applicable but contains good lessons i hope!) i’d met him during the first week of freshman year of college, and we immediately became close. hung out a ton and related on a lot of issues/values but our interactions were always platonic.
by wintertime we were being seen together around campus a ton, to the point that our acquaintances started asking whether we were a couple. we’d laugh at the idea, even joking about it ourselves. oh how oblivious we were.
spring rolled around and i suddenly caught feelings. for a couple weeks i tried to convince myself i didn’t like him because i was so afraid of losing our beautiful friendship. i thought it impossible that he would feel the same as me. yes, pretty torturous!! alas, my Emotional Suppression didn’t work. thank god, because one night when we were hanging out in my room he finally kissed me. i had been so afraid but instantly i knew it was right. the risk was worth it.
we’ve now been together for almost two years and he is truly the love of my life. he is the best risk I’ve ever taken. yes this is so platitudinous, but sometimes love comes when you least expect it and appears in odd places!
more generally, i think
- looking for people whose values align with yours is a wonderful place to start establishing intimate and long-lasting relationships, both platonic and romantic.
- it’s never worthwhile to force something to work out if your gut tells you it’s wrong — you’re worth more than that. love doesn’t thrive when it’s fed by obligation and pressure.
- don’t be afraid to present yourself in your full authenticity to others. if someone else has a problem with You in your Grandest Expression, they’re not worth your energy. love is meant to affirm and expand who you are, not place boundaries on it.
- go on self dates and explore what it means to have a loving relationship with yourself! you, as a singular self, are already whole and enough without having a partner. you are complete as a baseline regardless of your relationship status; a partner is meant to complement and embrace this wholeness!!
love is ridiculous and hard and beautiful; trust it when you feel it!!
Nov 10, 2024
back to letting the love i have received and have given myself extend on for eternity within me because as humans we are capable of tending it like a garden with kindness and compassion and gratitude even through things like loss and change and heartbreak
go eat some grapes ya idiot
Mar 5, 2025
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