If you love someone or something, you need to act LOVING. If you aren’t consistently loving in relationships at best they’ll go stale, at worst there will be mistreatment. That includes the relationship with yourself.
Most importantly, if someone says they love you but treat you like garbage, they don’t. Be loving to yourself and leave.
Incorporating this frame of mind into your thoughts and actions is life changing.
Jul 17, 2024
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Sometimes I get caught up chasing ideals of love. Growing up with immigrant parents in the US, I wished my parents showed me love the way my friends' parents did. My parents seemed cold in comparison to the affection I saw my friends receiving. I fell for best friends who did love me but never enough and never in the ways I wanted them to.
Nowadays I have grown to appreciate the ways in which my parents do show me love -- when they ask if I've eaten or when I dye my mom's hair as she peels me oranges. Friendship to me no longer needs to be tied up in such rigid binaries. It's not the label of a relationship I'm after but rather just the intimacy of knowing other people. I try not to focus so much on how I wish to be loved by other people and instead pay attention to all the different ways I am loved. Acting with a mindset of abundance rather than scarcity. And in that way, everything feels enough.
Disclaimer: Establishing boundaries is paramount. Love that is corrosive or manipulative is not love.
Feb 1, 2024
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not only when you have a deep conversation or they do something great for you, remember that our reception of love is equal to our familiarity with giving it to others. unlearning the process of commodifying love has been so difficult but so freeing, realizing i can care for people openly for simply being in my lives without having to feel like they must do something to earn it is so so wonderful, highly recommend
Jun 18, 2024
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dedicate your day to only radiating, feeling and expressing love toward people, things, thoughts, ideas etc. start easy - literally take inventory of people you love, your pets, favorite bands and restaurants. look around your home and love all your belongings. go outside and love the bus driver and the person in line ahead of you at the deli. at some point that love goes back inward!
how you feel about yourself is how you feel about others AND vice versa. if you are critical and judgmental of people you will do it to yourself. if you approach people with a general “oh i like them! they’re nice” approach you will feel that way about yourself too. if you struggle with self esteem and viewing yourself negatively the first step is to love others and seek out their good qualities and that will become your mindset toward yourself
feeling love / positivity is a muscle and a habit that you need to reinforce, but it is really hard to feel that inwardly if you are frustrated and annoyed with external factors.
Nov 13, 2024
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This has become the norm and every day I grow more disturbed. I understand if somebody is behaving in a harmful way, that is good to document and put out there. But as a whole, it seems, we have become so comfortable with recording people just living their lives. I saw a video of a guy working and the caption of the video was that he was so hot, we needed to find him!!! Why are you providing the Internet with his face and location instead of just going up to talk to him? I saw another of two people on the subway, seemingly a couple, having a very emotional moment. How would you feel if you open up an app and saw a video like that of yourself? I don’t like this level of sibling society surveillance. Why are you videoing an elderly person with sad music dubbed over it to gain likes? It is WEIRD. Don’t even get me started on videos of children. It is WEIRD to use a stranger without their consent to get some kind of fake validation. Get a life.
I don’t mean to come on here and share something so negative, I just don’t have anywhere else to put it and it’s gnawing at me.
Oct 7, 2024
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It’s to keep us humble otherwise we’d be TOO hot/sexy/cool
Jul 3, 2024