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This is such a funny question to me

Because I already own so little I have a pretty bare-bones minimalistic lifestyle and probably have way less stuff than the average person. I don’t really buy things very often and I’ve always purged my possessions regularly, giving away whatever i didn’t have a need for. I’m kind of against selling things I’ve already bought and used it feels greedy to me. I’ve tried but I don’t have enough hustle in me to sell on Poshmark or Depop so I recently sent multiple pairs of Rag & Bone shoes and boots to the thrift store (has anyone else had to RECKON WITH your delusional belief that your feet were smaller than they were? I don’t even want to say what size mine are) + lots of gorgeous clothes that no longer fit me because I was convinced that I would never lose enough weight to fit into them again but now that I have I’m like damn I wish I had my clothes back. Anyway I literally can’t think of one thing I have that I shouldn’t? Maybe the low-cut socks I bought at Costco recently before I remembered that I stopped buying these socks at Costco years ago because they SLIP like CRAZY and I’m filled with rage every time I wear them. But I will probably just stay with them until they fall apart because I’m too cheap to buy more.

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Oct 23, 2024

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I’m picky and not so experimental

When I was a wee twiggy girl approximately aged 16-23 I would just buy whatever I could find at thrift stores that was especially weird or interesting and didn’t have to think about what it looked like because I could just slap things together and look cute and quirky. As I’ve aged I’ve developed a gourmand tendency towards indulgence and, consequently, a figure a little more like Marilyn Monroe (not in the way a lot of women say it—no offense and bless them for living their truth—I’m speaking objectively) so my focus is like purely on finding clothes that fit me structurally that have very particular shapes silhouettes and details. I’m also careful about finding clothes that fit within an autumnal color palette to suit my complexion. I generally won’t buy clothes if they’re not made of natural fibers and if I’m thrift shopping or on poshmark I keep an eye out for pieces from designers I love. I look for things that fit with my well loved staple items and only buy something if I really love it because I don’t like to have a lot of stuff anymore. I love lush textures and fabrics for winter like velvet and fur

@taterhole

Sep 13, 2024

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my life changed for the better when i stopped dressing to look as small as possible

I have thought about this at length, I fear. I want to look and feel at ease in my clothes and I shop for clothing very intentionally. For me the rules of outfits are: - No single-designer looks - Steam/press rarely - No logos (sneakers are the exception) - Always wear at least 1 garment with visible wear or damage - Get dressed intentionally every day - It does not matter how conventionally flattering the look is. I care only about how it makes me feel in my body - Never clean Ur (my) shoes except to keep leather in condition I shop almost exclusively second hand and in person—I only buy if I would be heartbroken to come back for a garment to find it had passed me by forever. Most pieces I see are effectively one-offs because I treat them this way. I am attracted to Japanese workwear silhouettes, modular garments, and drama. “My” colour is the shade precisely between yellow and orange. All my jewelry is gifted. I aim to keep garments until the end of their lives.

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May 5, 2024

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Starting over

“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.” — Anaïs Nin This is uncharacteristically raw and personal, even for me, and pretty heavy! I know many of you have seen me posting through it and I feel safe to talk about it openly now that I’ve safely landed at the start of my new life. It’s honestly even a little bit embarrassing but I think it’s important to share. I’ve never publicly mentioned it on here, but I have a husband; as of Friday, we’d have been together for 11 years, and we’ve been married for 3 years as of 2/22. I realize now that I wanted to explore what I looked like outside of my relationship with him because I had lost that. This is why PI.FYI has been so meaningful to me as a space to express myself and connect with people—to rediscover my voice. I had been living a lie this entire time, to others but worst of all to myself. He’s been verbally and emotionally abusive, physically but without touching me, to the point that every day I spent with him I was in danger. I’ve been shrinking myself and walking on eggshells to avoid making him insecure and provoking his casual put-downs and fits of rage, while hanging on for dear life to the threads of good I could see. I’ve wanted so badly to leave, more than anything, but I felt like there was no way out and that this was just something I would need to endure indefinitely—but someone who is so very dear to me helped me see that I have wings to fly, not by acting as my savior but by reminding me of my own power. The emotional safety they built and the gentle care they showed me made me feel like I could open up to them. With their encouragement I was brave enough to tell the truth to my friends, my family, my boss, and they have received me with warm, loving and open arms and rallied to support and protect me. The financial and  logistical aspects were the most intimidating to me and it’s going to be tough for a while but I’m going to be better than okay! Now I’m opening up to you. This isn’t the only abuse I’ve suffered in my life, and my old therapist told me she believed it was my mission to share my strength and light with others to inspire them and show them that change is possible. I hope that by sharing this, I can reach even just one person who is going through something similar and show that they are not alone, and they are not weak. People with certain backgrounds may be more vulnerable to abuse, but it can happen to anyone. It thrives in darkness, shame, and isolation—and breaking that silence is the first step toward freedom. Leaving is the scariest thing I have ever done but I have so many angels around me, and I am endlessly grateful. Thank you for being here with me 💌

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Never changing

My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebody—be it a relative or one of my best friends—was to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too 💌

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Feb 23, 2025

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Finally Quitting the job that you hate

Schedule sent my resignation email for the morning, effective immediately ✅💅

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Feb 27, 2025

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