Because I already own so little I have a pretty bare-bones minimalistic lifestyle and probably have way less stuff than the average person. I donāt really buy things very often and Iāve always purged my possessions regularly, giving away whatever i didnāt have a need for. Iām kind of against selling things Iāve already bought and used it feels greedy to me.
Iāve tried but I donāt have enough hustle in me to sell on Poshmark or Depop so I recently sent multiple pairs of Rag & Bone shoes and boots to the thrift store (has anyone else had to RECKON WITH your delusional belief that your feet were smaller than they were? I donāt even want to say what size mine are) + lots of gorgeous clothes that no longer fit me because I was convinced that I would never lose enough weight to fit into them again but now that I have Iām like damn I wish I had my clothes back.
Anyway I literally canāt think of one thing I have that I shouldnāt? Maybe the low-cut socks I bought at Costco recently before I remembered that I stopped buying these socks at Costco years ago because they SLIP like CRAZY and Iām filled with rage every time I wear them. But I will probably just stay with them until they fall apart because Iām too cheap to buy more.
Oct 23, 2024
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I have a lot of trouble getting rid of clothes and have had a habit of just buying and hoarding beautiful secondhand pieces and never wearing them. and when I do get rid of them I regret it soooo much like I did a purge within the last year because I had resigned myself to feeling like my body had permanently changed and then lost a ton of weight and am back to the size I used to be š¤¦āāļø
Here are a few items I cannot let go of:
* Comically oversized impractical Surell fox fur earmuffs I got from Poshmark. Theyāre in a more sable color but I had to use this model photo to illustrate how hilariously huge they are Iām obsessed. I only wear them when Iām doing a glamorous look though because they look insane
* square toed Rag & Bone cheetah print boots I got on TRR for like $15 when I delusionally thought my shoe size was smaller. they are just slightly too small and I wear them anyway and suffer because they are CUTEā¦
* Rag & Bone fluffy loop knit rabbit hair sweater with gold metallic strands throughout. This is a photo of someoneās from Poshmark that is in like immaculate condition but mine is rattier and the top buttons have fallen off so I always wear it open. my absolute favorite piece itās so versatile and can be dressed up or down
* cropped black Rag & Bone (can you see a patternā¦) cashmere sweater and vintage black long slitted velvet skirt I bought at my neighborhood thrift store recently!! My new favorite outfit and these are pieces to hang onto forever
Dec 17, 2024
allocating more than just a few pinterest ideas and aesthetics in order to curate a style that youāre confident in will make you stand out. whether you think thatās a good or bad thing, by āstand outā i mean people catch a glimpse of you and immediately know who you are based on how you dress. thereās nothing wrong with going with a trend if you like it, but itās so painful to see people consume for the sake of consumption. i mean thatās a concept for a whole other rec in itself, but what iām trying to get at is you donāt need to constantly use outfit inspo pics for outfit inspo. seek your surroundings, ponder your past, think about yourself as a piece of art, which you ultimately are. donāt avoid wearing the statement piece that a stranger would find weird, theyāre probably just pissy. dress the fuck up on days you donāt need to just for the hell of it.
and remember, donāt get discouraged if the first ācrazyā fit you throw on looks like shit. it takes time to make art!
and if you feel comfortable and beautiful in simpler articles, and youāre not into anything too bold or loud, still make it your look. art doesnāt have to be complex, but make each choice have purpose. why choose one blank white tee over another? is it a specific hue of white? does it compliment other features of your outfit? is it comfy as fuck? show that to people and make them know itās you. you donāt need to dress to impress, but god if you bought that shirt only because your favorite influencer promoted it, or even worse if you bought it just because it was on a sale rack, youāre disrespecting your canvas! itās like pissing on a van gogh oil paintingā it might look amazing but you canāt help but think about the fact that thereās piss on it.
that brings me to probably the most widespread concern of consumers: cost. yes, higher quality products are going to cost more. itās difficult in such a dense place like SoCal(where iām from) to find cheap ANYTHING. i split a dozen dumplings for $20 the other day with a friend and i swear i couldāve called 911 on this food-influencer-aimed āchineseā restaurant for highway robbery. food was pretty good tho canāt lie. however, that doesnāt mean that itās impossible to find incredible clothing from staple secondhand stores like Goodwill. several friends of mine have landed at their unique styles that can be associated directly to them, and their closets are mostly filled with Goodwill Bins finds. āohhhh the Bins are so dirtyyy eewwwwā yeah if you canāt dig through some used clothing for a while donāt complain about not being able to afford those $600 shitstained acne jeans. i mightāve gotten a little personal with that. lmk your thoughts on fashion and what it means to you!
you know what fuck it just wear sweatpants a sweatshirt and flip flops lifeās not that serious
Oct 1, 2024
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Lately, Iāve been trying to reconcile my love for fashion and my cynicism around overconsumption culture & its negative implications and detriments to our plant.
I made a commitment to myself to drastically decrease how much I buy, and I ask myself these questions whenever I feel the urge to buy purchase items that are not considered needs:
What void am I trying to fill? Is it a lack of purpose, a weak sense of identity? What about this item do I like and is there longevity in its qualities or is it fleeting? Is this just a short term dopamine hit? How can I be creative with what I currently have? Will I love this a year from now? How is this trend connected to our culture at large and am I just a victim to a broader marketing campaign?!
Another thing I have found helpful is to gather my favorite pieces that I currently have, and think of what specifically I like about them and why I wear certain pieces so often: Comfortable to the touch, practicality, versatility with my everyday lifestyle, unique silhouettes and texture, and neutral colors
Keeping these things in mind really help me to make more informed purchasing decisions. Some books Iām currently reading that relates to this topic are:
Deluxe by Dana Thomas
The Day the World Stops Shopping by J.B MacKinnon
Feb 13, 2024
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My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebodyābe it a relative or one of my best friendsāwas to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too š
Feb 23, 2025
Schedule sent my resignation email for the morning, effective immediately ā
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Feb 27, 2025
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Iāve been thinking about how much of social media is centered around curating our self-image. When selfies first became popular, they were dismissed as vain and vapidāa critique often rooted in misogynyābut now, the way we craft our online selves feels more like creating monuments.
We try to signal our individuality, hoping to be seen and understood, but ironically, I think this widens the gap between how others perceive us and who we really are. Instead of fostering connection, it can invite projection and misinterpretationāpreconceived notions, prefab labels, and stereotypes. Worse, individuality has become branded and commodified, reducing our identities to products for others to consume.
On most platforms, validation often comes from how well you can curate and present your imageāselfies, aesthetic branding, and lifestyle content tend to dominate. High engagement is tied to visibility, not necessarily depth or substance. But I think spaces like PI.FYI show that thereās another way: where connection is built on shared ideas, tastes, and interests rather than surface-level content. Itās refreshing to be part of a community that values thoughts over optics.
By sharing so few images of myself, Iāve found that it gives others room to focus on my ideas and voice. When I do share an image, it feels intentionalāsomething that contributes to the story I want to tell rather than defining it. Sharing less allows me to express who I am beyond appearance.
For women, especially, sharing less can be a radical act in a world where the default is to objectify ourselves. It resists the pressure to center appearance, focusing instead on what truly matters: our thoughts, voices, and authenticity. Iāve posted a handful of pictures of myself in 2,500 posts because I care more about showing who I am than how I look.
In trying to be seen, are we making it harder for others to truly know us? Itās a question worth considering.
Dec 27, 2024