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Ins:
· Free museums
· Loving your friends loudly
· Growing food at home
· Late nights making art
· Photobooths
· Tipping your servers and delivery drivers well
· Listening to a single album or artist at a time
· Movies filmed on 35mm
· NPR
· AO3
· Reading multiple books at once
· Snail mail
· Having a signature color
· Reading the credits
· Physical media
· Local coffee shops and bookstores
· Occasional drunk cigarettes while still claiming you’re not a smoker
· House shows
· Criterion channel
· Handmade gifts
· Third places
· Media literacy
· Eating whole apples
Outs:
· Podcasts about nothing
· Labeling everything as a hyper-specific aesthetic
· Overconsuming media to the point where you aren’t even paying attention to or understanding the content (I’m looking at you 150 goodreads goals, letterboxd warriors, and 3x audiobook listeners)
· Intellectual snobbery
· Capitalism
· Depop resellers
· Vegans who judge non-vegans
· Trending audios that have absolutelye nothing to do with the video
· Not knowing how to cook
· Using ai, even when you’re bored or stuck
· Fighting to the death over celebs or authors who have no clue who you are
· Hating popular things just because they’re popular (you don’t look cool!)
· Nickle and diming your friends on venmo
· Dating apps
· Spotify's pre-made playlists
· Performative activism
· Oversharing online (please bring back secrets and keep your kinks at home)
· Monetizing your hobbies
· Colleen hoover
· Clean versions of songs
· Refusing to have strong opinions on anything
· Making smoking pot your entire personality
· Vaping
· Self help books
Jan 4, 2025
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I encourage you to rip into me if you disagree because shying away from disagreement is what??👂 OUT!
IN
• Reading books
• Folk-rock and folk-country
• Doing stuff on the computer and not your phone like god intended (social media, online shopping, etc.)
• Clothes-wise: colored tights, mini skirts, scarves
• Being late to work
• Talking to strangers, in the same vein: making new friends
• Writing
• Taking the bus and the train
• Saying what you need to say and doing so succinctly
• Unionizing your workplace
OUT
• Boring convos with coworkers
• Wearing clothes you don’t really like
• Minnesota nice (see also: being nice is not always the same as being kind)
• VAPING OHHH MY GOD. WRAP IT UP!!!
• Caring about makeup, unless you’re a drag queen or a goth. Like you get 15 minutes max
• Shying away from disagreement
• Fast casual chain restaurants - go eat local and sit down for a while
• Paw Patrol (copaganda)
• Ass kissing
• Being under 25
Dec 23, 2024
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not finished…
ins ~
• personal style
• being upfront
• live music
• physical media
• crafts/personalizing everything
• trusting your intuition
• blue eyeshadow (in a 1960s way)
• niche playlists
• talking to strangers
• pocket-sized notebooks
• pattern mixing
• spontaneous trips
• messy hair
• doing it for the memoir
outs ~
• being late
• black and white mentality
• being embarrassed
• oversharing
• toxic friendships
• diet soda
• vaping
• impulsive shopping
• dating apps
• letting myself spiral
• doing it for the plot
• fear of being perceived
Jan 20, 2025
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a combination of both goals and predictions for this year
in:
listening to movie soundtracks and scores
mixing patterns
finding passion for old hobbies
loose leaf teas
the beach boys
coordinated outfits with the gals
scheduled reoccurring hangouts
parker posey movies
vine references
nonfiction books and leisurely research
picking a general area to eat at and not a specific restaurant
setting up your friends
bikes
mocktails
carrying drinks in mugs outside the house
out:
relationships of ambiguous nature
criticizing modern art without researching the background behind the pieces
political jargon
letterboxd one liners
cocaine
street interviews
men calling their gfs “this one”
hardcover books
weaponized incompetence
only saving media electronically
having a superiority complex over consuming less digital media (you can still learn things through digital mediums!!)
Jan 15, 2025
Top Recs from @sbonifazi
this idea of "you don't owe anyone anything" came about through the social media therapists that try to diagnose complete strangers with a multitude of issues and complexes. all it has done has made selfish people more selfish and divided us as a community.
you do not owe everyone everything, but if you consider yourself part of a community, a society, you do owe everyone something. at a base level you owe people kindness, respect (as long as they haven't lost the right to it), and basic human decency. you owe your loved ones even more.
stop being selfish and rude in the name of treating your so-called "people pleasing."
Feb 4, 2025
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if one more person tells me to turn one of my hobbies into a business i'm gonna go berserk. is nothing sacred in this late stage capitalist hellscape?
Feb 3, 2025
oscar wilde said, "If you want to be a grocer, or a general, or a politician, or a judge, you will invariably become it; that is your punishment. If you never know what you want to be, if you live what some might call the dynamic life but what I will call the artistic life, if each day you are unsure of who you are and what you know you will never become anything, and that is your reward."
i remind myself of this quote every time i get jealous of my friends who have it all figured out.
Feb 1, 2025