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Exploring femininity
As a child growing up with brothers and as the fat black kid, i never considered myself feminine. Even when i lost weight in middle school and went to an all girls high school, looking girly or being more “feminine” was just not something i thought about. I feel like recently, i wanted to explore that more, as this pull to dress and appear more feminine has become super strong. Having a house to decorate in any way I can, actually starting to feel better about my body to wear skirts again, etc has really influenced me. But my fears are that it may portray trad wife or child’s play; I’m nervous of stares or being questioned about my views if i were to give such a strong appearance of a girly woman. But some of my inspirations have been strolling through vintage creators and small japanese insta accounts with super pink and fluffy aesthetics. Hopefully i will build up the courage
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@chiawase_
Jan 5, 2025
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@gretafetacheese
People may look and while it's intimidating that's not always a bad thing. Turning heads is powerful! Think of how it makes you feel when you see others do it and consider that you may be giving others that same feeling—a beautiful thing! If someone is going to assume you're right wing because you wear a frilly dress then they're the weird ones, not you :)
Jan 5, 2025
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@altonbrownsrightfoot53
tbh you probably will be stared at or questioned for dressing that way, but not dressing the way you want is not the answer. you will ALWAYS feel better dressing the way you want than hiding yourself away in shame. the people who judge you for that without trying to get to know dont Have valuable opinions anyway.
Jan 5, 2025
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@nerdsclusters753
There’s something so empowering and freeing about finally embracing femininity, especially after living in your masculine for such a long time. As long as you feel that it’s right and it makes you happy, theres no shame in pushing yourself to explore new things.
Jan 5, 2025
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@avawasastar
you will build up the courage the more you push through the hesitation and just do it. that's been my experience, at least, as someone who always grew up chubby and has been very masculine for a good portion of my life. i feel like i always surprise people when i dress or act feminine, but it makes me feel incredible to do so, so i continue to do it!
Jan 5, 2025

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