Your thirties are essentially your twenties, but with a filter placed over them. So you lose some of the joy, passion, and vitality, but you gain an added depth and richness. Things that seemed unattainable before, suddenly start to take shape. There's still some chaos, but now the chaos coexists with stability in a steady little invigorating balance and you finally start to get to put some of that "experience" to use as you continue to navigate and learn about this shit show we call life.
Jan 7, 2025
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It feels like more money, more problems. Body parts hurt and donât heal right away. Yeah you have heartburn, a handful of friends, and they all live far away. You question life choices, finally start figuring out what the hell youâre supposed to be doing.
But you also find peace, get more comfortable in your own skin. You can see through the bullshit, can recognize the people who are genuine.
Your 30s are like your 20s. Your brain wonât see the difference, youâll just know when you look around and think âhey, this isnât so badâ.
Jan 8, 2025
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im turning 30 this year and im literally so excited... life has never felt as peaceful or made this much sense before. im really looking forward to my 30s and beyond, the hardships still come of course but i am way better equipped to handle them. 20s is/was so stormy and unstable constantly and my mental health was very poor (though i will always struggle in this sector i have way better techniques that i could have only gained through experience!) i feel overall happier and more capable than ever, truly grounded, and ready to keep growing in this direction. i know aging is never super fashionable but in my experience it's been nothing but positive. so don't be afraid if u are someone who feels anxious about it!!!
Feb 3, 2024
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Congrats on making it thru your 20s. I used to be really anxious about turning 30 but I think thatâs because people around our age are using the milestones of yesteryear (having a house, family, etc.) to measure our sense of self worth.
Iâve come to accept that placing any expectations on where you Should Be or what you Should Have by a certain age is an unreasonable and frustrating way to live life. the older you get the easier it is to to radically accept where ur at in life.
Iâve since turned 31 which I think is an even funnier age and I feel like Iâm more relaxed and at peace with myself then ever. I donât really feel confused or like there is anything I need to âfigure out,â which is how I and probably how most people feel in their 20s. i have perspective on life that feels earned thru personal experience and that isnât derived from cultural/intellectual consumption.
Also I think itâs important and liberating to lean in to being âoldâ and âwashedâ and out of touch. Youâre free! Let the kids buy JNCOs. Enjoy yourself. life is short.
Jan 8, 2025
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I don't know how well this actually answers your initial question, I think it's more of a counterpoint to some of the stuff people have already said, but here it goes.
In the past (prior to social media or search engines) specific styles, specialized knowledge, and niche awareness actually took effort. You had to go out into the world and find a scene, be accepted, participate in it, contribute to it, and learn from others with specific knowledge within the specific sub- or counter-cultural scene. It took time, effort, and experience to craft an identity. Nowadays people cycle through various identities and trends like commodities because it takes no effort (they're sold to them by social media algorithms, influencers, brand accounts, etc.). It comes to you in your phone without you ever even having to leave the house or put in the time to discover it or participate in it (you just follow specific people or subscribe). You can be a passive observer or consumer, not an active contributor. As a result, you're not invested or tied down and committed to that core identity. You can cosplay depending on your mood or who you want to momentarily convey yourself as, because it's easy. Essentially, being a poser has become normalized. An identity is now something to be momentarily consumed and affected, rather than grown, built, and developed over time.
Granted, it's always been different in regards to "mass" culture and popular trends (both in the past and now). Those are impossible to miss and were always monopolized by specific trend setting institutions, but always by the time it gets to that point, the actual initial counter- or sub-culture that inspired it has already been coopted and has started to disintegrate under the weight and attention of mass consumption.
Feb 18, 2024
It's an action deserving of its own nickname. My cat's name is Gomez, but when he crosses his paws like this, he turns into Hodgkins Plumpersocks.
Feb 2, 2024
I feel like everything about this photo captures that unique period of time - the covid masks, the protest signs, the boarded windows, the national guard.
I look at it now and I still feel glimmers of the hope I felt in that moment, when the rigid and all encompassing oppressive and systemic ruts of society felt like they were becoming more plastic and might even come undone. However, in retrospect, I am of course also hit with the ultimate disappointment, betrayal, and futility of it all.
So in that sense, it really captures that hovering sense of disillusionment and hope that I'm perpetually caught between within my day to day life.
Mar 30, 2024