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Congrats on making it thru your 20s. I used to be really anxious about turning 30 but I think thatās because people around our age are using the milestones of yesteryear (having a house, family, etc.) to measure our sense of self worth.
Iāve come to accept that placing any expectations on where you Should Be or what you Should Have by a certain age is an unreasonable and frustrating way to live life. the older you get the easier it is to to radically accept where ur at in life.
Iāve since turned 31 which I think is an even funnier age and I feel like Iām more relaxed and at peace with myself then ever. I donāt really feel confused or like there is anything I need to āfigure out,ā which is how I and probably how most people feel in their 20s. i have perspective on life that feels earned thru personal experience and that isnāt derived from cultural/intellectual consumption.
Also I think itās important and liberating to lean in to being āoldā and āwashedā and out of touch. Youāre free! Let the kids buy JNCOs. Enjoy yourself. life is short.
Jan 8, 2025
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im turning 30 this year and im literally so excited... life has never felt as peaceful or made this much sense before. im really looking forward to my 30s and beyond, the hardships still come of course but i am way better equipped to handle them. 20s is/was so stormy and unstable constantly and my mental health was very poor (though i will always struggle in this sector i have way better techniques that i could have only gained through experience!) i feel overall happier and more capable than ever, truly grounded, and ready to keep growing in this direction. i know aging is never super fashionable but in my experience it's been nothing but positive. so don't be afraid if u are someone who feels anxious about it!!!
Feb 3, 2024
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Iāve taken some time to think about this, because so much I could say feels circumstantial.Ā Ā But hereās what Iāve come to:
Iām still technically early 30ās, but one thing Iāve noticed from myself and friends is a higher level of intentionality.Ā Ā There is an inherent drive to deepen bonds that are worth it, and moving energy away from those that are draining.Ā Ā In order to do that, you have to be intentional about building those connections.Ā Ā All my friends are busy, myself included, so we carve out time to spend together and make sure that happens at least monthly.Ā Ā I actually host a monthly game night which is intentionally very laid back and an opportunity to just have fun, because I know we all need it!Ā Ā I still make connections with new people, but there has to be a little something there for me to put my time and energy into creating something more.
I also found my focus shifting from short term to long term.Ā Ā That was uncomfortable for me.Ā Ā While Iām still a very in the moment person, I started actually thinking about how I wanted my life to look not just right now, but years from now.
Itās true that youāll get a lot of clarity on who you are.Ā Ā I just am who I am, and Iām not trying things out anymore.Ā Ā That doesnāt mean Iām not open and curious and playful, but at my core Iām solid.Ā Ā Either people vibe with that or they donāt, itās not personal to me. I donāt need to be liked by everyone, and I donāt need to like everyone.
Working on yourself is essential. We all have issues, most of them arenāt our fault, but it is our responsibility to work on them.Ā Ā We also all have core issues that will never fully go away, but can get better.Ā Ā Healing is a spiral and weāre never fully done.Ā Ā Life is healing, integrating, enjoying the new level, then leveling up again!
My 20s very much felt like a portal and now my 30s are feeling like a much different kind of one. Welcome to the club and HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! š„³
Jun 7, 2024
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It feels like more money, more problems. Body parts hurt and donāt heal right away. Yeah you have heartburn, a handful of friends, and they all live far away. You question life choices, finally start figuring out what the hell youāre supposed to be doing.
But you also find peace, get more comfortable in your own skin. You can see through the bullshit, can recognize the people who are genuine.
Your 30s are like your 20s. Your brain wonāt see the difference, youāll just know when you look around and think āhey, this isnāt so badā.
Jan 8, 2025
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to me this is one of lifeās most simple joys - especially during the winter.
The combination of not driving + the heat from the pie keeping your legs warm + direct pizza fumes provides a precious and rare sensory experience
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Feat. Weird ceramic Superman and protein granola and yes I had a psychedelic experience watching Star Wars the other night when I was stoned
Feb 26, 2025
Not to beat a dead horse but google has now foisted integration of itās Gemini AI into basic gmail / drive functionality.
Donāt offload your critical faculties to a super computer. Write that email. Use your brain.
Every time you feed this thing it will get ābetterā and you are training it to replace you.
Jan 16, 2025