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Now hear me out, we are all different individuals, which is a very good thing, keeping us all unique from each others, now read that again.
That's the "issue", since we are all unique in our own ways, it means we all had different circumstances which make us think in different ways, so communicate your thoughts very clearly in order to be understood.
Easy as that, there is no magic trick to it or anything, of course we should pick our words carefully to not hurt people or be too harsh on them.
Nevertheless, that's only 50% of the communication, because if the second part doesn't want to understand then you can't do much about it, yes i said doesn't want to understand, because if the communication is clear there is no way they "can't" understand it.
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one of the biggest shocks about growing up was discovering that motherfuckers cannot read minds. I am still shaken up about this.
but what mf can do is learn about you. Communication can and does go beyond just the verbal corrections. It can be body language, the tightness of shoulders or sudden lack of eye contact. its tricky tho, to just go from physical cues alone. a picture paints a thousand words is not actually true, unless the artist explains their point.
For me, when I’m triggered and tensed up — my body is painting the picture of rejection for the other. They might think im angry, or that they did something wrong. But the words i need to hear are ‘you’re safe, of course you feel that way’ instead of ‘what‘s wrong with you’
for me, ive communicated that I like when others pry a bit for my emotions. I’m such an explosion of colours, the observer needs to decipher the blues in a way that makes me feel they care. Which is by asking. I’m not asking them to know what the hell im painting, the brush strokes of my experience, but it goes a long way to talk about it. Even if it just means leaning into the observer and saying ‘could you please get me some water… I’m running dry… ‘
Dec 7, 2024
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it just about how to understand each other. yap, all about understanding!
Feb 4, 2024
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i wish people were better at this. big sign of emotional maturity i think is when people are actually capable of this. things happen and if you can’t talk them through what are you meant to do? just let it stew so it gets worse? let it destroy a relationship for no reason? fuck all that. have the conversations so you can reach an understanding. we can’t read eachothers minds man
Jun 10, 2024
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I can’t find the Creator and i am mad about it because i wanna credit the one who made sure to put this for free.
I’ve found this website RetroPrint where they show the details of how you can make a Windows 95 customised theme on your phone (with over 800 icons app to choose from 27 of them are already made for the modern apps like netflix twitter etc - some graphics for the widgets too And 3 sounds.)
Jan 30, 2025
If there is one style that literally calms me is stippling.
The endless dots, the slow process, the nuance effect, the final results.
I just love it and appreciate it even more when i spend hours/days to finish one.
Jan 13, 2025
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The fact that i can stay in bed warm with my phone or laptop and music in the background as i watch my favourite movies/series/youtube vids with a warm tea is simple enough to make me grateful for wherever i am today.
Worrying about what I should wear to work is a beautiful thing because it’s a privilege that sadly some people can’t afford :(
Complaining about to cook is a beautiful thing because someone somewhere sadly can’t even afford/have access to a simple bread piece.
Literally feeling the warmth of the sun while standing waiting for the bus is a beautiful thing to cherish and be grateful for.
Jan 11, 2025