Depending on what’s situationally appropriate… I struggled with being overly blunt and honest or outspoken and also with feeling like I didn’t need to share my thoughts and opinions because they didn’t matter. Now I’ve found balance and tactfulness for the most part but it’s taken me time and effort to get here!!
Jan 16, 2025
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it took me a while to realize this but, communicating doesn’t mean sharing every thought you have and every feeling going through you.
its often best to take some time to assess how you feel, come to a conclusion that you’re confident in, and then share that with whoever you’re conversing with. especially if they play a significant role in your life.
i used to think that by making my internal dialogue and thought process totally transparent, i was just being super communicative - while that might technically be true, sometimes some of our passing thoughts on our way to a final conclusion about how we feel about something might actually be hurtful to the other person if vocalized!!
idk i just felt like sharing this ok 👍🏻
May 29, 2024
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I like to stop talking sometimes and communicate through gestures. It helps me balance myself and keep from getting overwhelmed because sometimes my own voice is too loud in my ears
Mar 6, 2025
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Didn’t realize how much I appreciate honesty and lack of allusions and weird subtext in your interactions with people when it matters most until recently. Very rare but important skill. you have got to say what you mean and mean what you say
Jan 27, 2024
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My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebody—be it a relative or one of my best friends—was to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too 💌
Feb 23, 2025
Schedule sent my resignation email for the morning, effective immediately ✅💅
Feb 27, 2025
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I’ve been thinking about how much of social media is centered around curating our self-image. When selfies first became popular, they were dismissed as vain and vapid—a critique often rooted in misogyny—but now, the way we craft our online selves feels more like creating monuments.
We try to signal our individuality, hoping to be seen and understood, but ironically, I think this widens the gap between how others perceive us and who we really are. Instead of fostering connection, it can invite projection and misinterpretation—preconceived notions, prefab labels, and stereotypes. Worse, individuality has become branded and commodified, reducing our identities to products for others to consume.
On most platforms, validation often comes from how well you can curate and present your image—selfies, aesthetic branding, and lifestyle content tend to dominate. High engagement is tied to visibility, not necessarily depth or substance. But I think spaces like PI.FYI show that there’s another way: where connection is built on shared ideas, tastes, and interests rather than surface-level content. It’s refreshing to be part of a community that values thoughts over optics.
By sharing so few images of myself, I’ve found that it gives others room to focus on my ideas and voice. When I do share an image, it feels intentional—something that contributes to the story I want to tell rather than defining it. Sharing less allows me to express who I am beyond appearance.
For women, especially, sharing less can be a radical act in a world where the default is to objectify ourselves. It resists the pressure to center appearance, focusing instead on what truly matters: our thoughts, voices, and authenticity. I’ve posted a handful of pictures of myself in 2,500 posts because I care more about showing who I am than how I look.
In trying to be seen, are we making it harder for others to truly know us? It’s a question worth considering.
Dec 27, 2024