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it took me a while to realize this but, communicating doesn’t mean sharing every thought you have and every feeling going through you.
its often best to take some time to assess how you feel, come to a conclusion that you’re confident in, and then share that with whoever you’re conversing with. especially if they play a significant role in your life.
i used to think that by making my internal dialogue and thought process totally transparent, i was just being super communicative - while that might technically be true, sometimes some of our passing thoughts on our way to a final conclusion about how we feel about something might actually be hurtful to the other person if vocalized!!
idk i just felt like sharing this ok 👍🏻
May 29, 2024
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Depending on what’s situationally appropriate… I struggled with being overly blunt and honest or outspoken and also with feeling like I didn’t need to share my thoughts and opinions because they didn’t matter. Now I’ve found balance and tactfulness for the most part but it’s taken me time and effort to get here!!
Jan 16, 2025
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one of the biggest shocks about growing up was discovering that motherfuckers cannot read minds. I am still shaken up about this.
but what mf can do is learn about you. Communication can and does go beyond just the verbal corrections. It can be body language, the tightness of shoulders or sudden lack of eye contact. its tricky tho, to just go from physical cues alone. a picture paints a thousand words is not actually true, unless the artist explains their point.
For me, when I’m triggered and tensed up — my body is painting the picture of rejection for the other. They might think im angry, or that they did something wrong. But the words i need to hear are ‘you’re safe, of course you feel that way’ instead of ‘what‘s wrong with you’
for me, ive communicated that I like when others pry a bit for my emotions. I’m such an explosion of colours, the observer needs to decipher the blues in a way that makes me feel they care. Which is by asking. I’m not asking them to know what the hell im painting, the brush strokes of my experience, but it goes a long way to talk about it. Even if it just means leaning into the observer and saying ‘could you please get me some water… I’m running dry… ‘
Dec 7, 2024
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It bums me out whenever someone's trying to say something but cuts themselves off or says "nevermind" because they assume that they're wasting time. Think it through, or let it come back to you. 3 years ago, I started saying, "Talk through the thought" with my friend, and I think it's made me more patient, and I've ended up hearing/saying some cool shit (or at least some funny shit) that I would've probably missed out on otherwise.
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