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Every person brings different qualities out in us and our connections with these people lead us down different paths. These missed connections arenāt even necessarily about the person themselves but about the life you could have lived together and the changes they would have brought about in you. It does require a kind of mourning to be able to let go.
Itās tragic when thereās someone you feel so compatible with but the circumstances just werenāt quite rightāIāve definitely experienced this myselfābut these connections exist in their context. Everyone we touch canāt be our forever love, but they can stay with us forever in our hearts. Love can take so many forms outside of the confines of a traditional relationship. Think of what you shared with them as a gift, rather than dwelling on what could have been.
Jan 26, 2025
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Basically what several others have said, but just want to emphasize that often when the timing is wrong, something else will be wrong at a later time that will make it clear to you there was no way you could have brute-forced that relationship to ultimately work well for both of you. Iām happily married with no regrets right now, but Iāve taken comfort before in loving the ones who have āgotten awayā from afar by imagining how happy they could be with someone elseābecause if I truly loved them, wouldnāt I want what makes them happy, even if itās not with me? And what a gift to truly love someone even when they can do nothing for you in returnā¦ it says something about your capacity for love, even if it exists alongside pain or loneliness.
(that said, yes it can hurt like hell and it sucks)
Jan 27, 2025
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I just saw someone say āwho says true love canāt be fleeting?ā And it honestly put what I view as āloveā into a new perspective. That puppy love you get for a few weeks with someone before it fizzles out or whatever is still love!
I had an extremely loving friendship with a person years ago,Iād had known them for 10 years before we had a falling out and I havenāt seen them since. That relationship was still love though, and the impact it had on my life will never go away.
Jan 18, 2025
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iām definitely a hopeless romantic but i think i have a good sense of realistic expectations in (romantic) love. so obviously i hope i find someone thatās like the loml but i understand how rare that is!
and i find it much more important to spend time appreciating love for yourself and others and nature and so on. all loves are important and abundant when you embrace them! maybe related ā i know itās the generational norm but dating apps feel way too unnatural to me.
i also think when we talk about ālove of your lifeā itās always finite; i believe itās more normal/realistic to have someone be the love of your life at a specific point in your life, and later you maybe part ways when you realize your lives and selves have separately evolved from that time.
but i know so many people who define their lives/future over being in their specific relationship (regardless if itās monogamous or not!) and i have found that is unhealthy and unsustainable. i think you can get so deep into a relationship that you drown in it!
May 14, 2024
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My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebodyābe it a relative or one of my best friendsāwas to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too š
Feb 23, 2025
Schedule sent my resignation email for the morning, effective immediately ā
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Feb 27, 2025
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Iāve been thinking about how much of social media is centered around curating our self-image. When selfies first became popular, they were dismissed as vain and vapidāa critique often rooted in misogynyābut now, the way we craft our online selves feels more like creating monuments.
We try to signal our individuality, hoping to be seen and understood, but ironically, I think this widens the gap between how others perceive us and who we really are. Instead of fostering connection, it can invite projection and misinterpretationāpreconceived notions, prefab labels, and stereotypes. Worse, individuality has become branded and commodified, reducing our identities to products for others to consume.
On most platforms, validation often comes from how well you can curate and present your imageāselfies, aesthetic branding, and lifestyle content tend to dominate. High engagement is tied to visibility, not necessarily depth or substance. But I think spaces like PI.FYI show that thereās another way: where connection is built on shared ideas, tastes, and interests rather than surface-level content. Itās refreshing to be part of a community that values thoughts over optics.
By sharing so few images of myself, Iāve found that it gives others room to focus on my ideas and voice. When I do share an image, it feels intentionalāsomething that contributes to the story I want to tell rather than defining it. Sharing less allows me to express who I am beyond appearance.
For women, especially, sharing less can be a radical act in a world where the default is to objectify ourselves. It resists the pressure to center appearance, focusing instead on what truly matters: our thoughts, voices, and authenticity. Iāve posted a handful of pictures of myself in 2,500 posts because I care more about showing who I am than how I look.
In trying to be seen, are we making it harder for others to truly know us? Itās a question worth considering.
Dec 27, 2024