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Reconnect with dormant/new parts of yourself

The most challenging part of breakups for me is rebuilding the infrastructure of your own life. Reconnect with the things you used to do before you started dating someone—(they might feel different and you might find they no longer work the way they used to, this is normal and okay) and find new things that help re-light the curiosity of your own life. We know so much less than we *think we do about what we might like/who we are, and breakups offer the perfect time to collect a little pile of ways/things/friends that help you feel more in touch with what you love and who you are. Gonna feel uncomfortable and weird but that means it’s working. Sending you love ❤️

@sophia

Mar 16, 2024

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I’m one year out from a big break up and i’ve never been more ‘me’

There is a lot of really good advice and input in the other responses, but I just wanted to let you know that about a year ago I broke up and stopped talking to the person I was dating for over 8 years. I didn’t realize how much I didn’t know about myself. In that time I’ve picked up a few art classes, fitness classes, and some of those I hated. Every time I was sad that I wanted to do [insert any thing or activity] but I didn’t have someone to do it with, I would go do it alone. This time last year was really hard. I had to drag my ass out of my apartment on long walks. podcasts were my best friends, because my real people friends would be busy some times and that’s okay! yeah I did watch all of love island. Alllll of it. I remember thinking “do I exist if I don’t have a person to tell xyz to??” Like yes girl ofc you do!!!! Right now I feel like my life and my heart are so full And happy and Light!!! Putting myself first and finding out what I like has been amazing and I’m so excited to hear about how You’re doing with it all.

@lyssdri

Jun 18, 2024

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build up your support network

take this lil romantic hiatus to invest in the other loved ones in your life. a lot of the pain from a breakup comes from losing the parts of your life that came with the other person - the places you would go, the habits you developed, the role emotionally they played in your life, etc. thing is you can find other folks in your life who can play those roles as well! if you have deep relationships in other areas of your life, the next breakup won't feel like losing a significant part of your life as much as losing one string of a spiderweb of people in your life. go invite friends out for 1 on 1 stuff, do things with big groups, find out what you can do in and of yourself to support yourself. it's easier to date and open yourself up to the risk of being hurt if the proportion of you that you're giving to this person up front isn't so big. you can give them more of the web over time as you grow together.

@royallmonarch

Apr 1, 2024

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stop!! look at my frog!!

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accepting that you’re not trendy and cool

tried reading dante alighieri’s inferno. key emphasis on tried. i got bored and realised a story written in poem form is not my typa beat. i tried because it seemed like what all the indie hipsters who are well versed would read, and that i would look cool and niche—but it just cost me $25. i prefer crazy detailed paragraphs rather than a line by line story. anyways

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Feb 17, 2025

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stop saying “i’m sick”!!

saying “i’m sick” when you’re sick is boring. instead, here are some more funky fresh and cool ways to disclose that your immune system has been highjacked (it’s time to revive these sayings from the dead!): “i am indisposed” “i am taken ill” “i am feeling out of sorts” “i am suffering from a bilious attack” “i have been seized by an ague” “i am afflicted with a malaise” “i have taken to my bed” “the vapours have overcome me” “i have a touch of the influenza” “the rheumatism plagues me” “i am laid low with a fever” “i am afflicted with a troublesome ailment” you’re welcome

@jilly

Feb 18, 2025

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