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I've been thinking too much

I need a place to archive my thoughts in a dated manner, but also not on instagram. I used to post things pretty frequently on my stories and then have a 'highlights' of the year that I could go back to look at, but now, I am not so comfortable sharing on such a commercial soul sucking platform that is data mining and surveilling and selling. I also feel like I am not, in my core, a good person. There are very few people who, when I see their success and happiness, spark genuine joy for me. For the most, I have to take a deep breath and remind myself that their life does not affect mine and that I should not let the display of their wealth of happiness, opportunity and beauty spoil the pursuit of my own. Some days, I feel so engrossed in knowing and wanting to know the updates of all the people around me. Now, I just want to shrink and disappear, I do not want people to know what I am up to and I do not want to peripherally watch others either. I want to focus on myself. I feel like I need to cut the plug on instagram with a hard delete. Maybe I will just buy myself a photo printer and print out the 'instagram' shots with their memories and make my own photobook instead. But I need to find a new way to document and archive my life.

@kanrakhan

Feb 8, 2025

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Deleting instagram and tiktok and twitter and others

Honestly deleting social media (especially instagram) has widen my capacity for new Real world things in so many ways. Being more creative, having more original ideas, honestly just more time To think!!! I think the first month was an adjustment because it was like a dopamine cleanse, lots of overthinking and feelings of intense boredom A lot of the things projected onto me I realized were not even insecurities of my own but harbored in my brain because of tiktok/instagram I did worry about having FOMO and not seeing what my friends were up to but I can also just text them and ask ??? I feel like instagram especially is a very PASSIVE and superficial way of connecting with people. I definitely feel like my social circle decreased exponentially without it but for the better 🧍‍♀️

@eggshellmindcracked

Sep 20, 2024

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pintrest, send more photos in the groupchat, make your own albums and scrapbooks

Pintrest If you need a more direct Instagram replacement to keep doing the pictures in squares thing in a public space you can curate, pintrest is an option. It's still social media but I feel like it's less soul suckig. More for the vibes. (from Jai's post about making a personal pintrest) Send more photos in the groupchat or to your friends If it's really just the sharing photos with those you love thing. Share them with the specific people you want to see them! Be shameless, maybe you'll start a thing! Maybe you'll all share photos in the groupchat, a great way to stay in touch. Digital albums and physical scrapbook This has been my favorite but the most removed way of replacing Instagram. I like digital albums because I can add in my one photo a day or have my favorite photos of myself and be vain and have it be just for me to look through. And I like scrapbook because they help me flip through the past vibes of the time. Which are usually the two things I want from insta. And scrapbooks have the bonus of letting me include other little memerobilia, drawings, notes. In no way is this a comprehensive list, but you just got to find very specifically what aspect you are itching to keep and find the best way to actually be doing that. But the pull of Instagram attention is definitely there. As someone who used to post regularly I get it. But once you bite the bullet, you don't actually miss it as much as you think you will.

@moonbeams

Mar 3, 2025

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INTROVERTS ARE FULLY FLEDGED PEOPLE!

there is certain type of extrovert that seems to believe that if you are introverted or shy you haven't reached your full potential, like you're only a half-baked pie, waiting for someone to come "pull you out of your shell" (-_-)... i am not a flower waiting to bloom! i am not an unfinished garment! THIS IS THE DEAL! take it or leave it, don't try to shape things you don't understand into something you do. no one owes you their bared soul.

@stellawella

Mar 3, 2025

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i hate board games. I said it.

Nothing fills me with dread quite like the cry of "Let's play a game!" at any social gathering. Icy hatred drips down my spine at the mention of them. The yelling, the looking at me, the boredom, the rules I can't remember, the endlessness of each round, the heightened emotions... WHY CAN'T WE JUST TALK?! ESPECIALLY in a social gathering where I don't really know many people. I have seen people I love be transformed and distorted by their competitiveness into hateful screeching banshees. It's terrying. Maybe I'm too sensitive, I don't care. I don't have a competitive bone in my body. I genuinely do not understand how a board game is an acceptable space to yell at people. Being yelled at over something that couldn't possible matter less is WORSE than being yelled at for a proper reason. The worst kind of board games are the ones that involve performing. They make me want to jump out of the nearest window. I'd rather someone brought out a crack pipe than a board game at a party.

@stellawella

Feb 16, 2025

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Rhubarb jam

my whimsical ass got up and made rhubarb jam first thing this morning. as if I don’t have a deadline tomorrow.

@stellawella

Feb 27, 2025

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