journaling always helps me during a break-up. you can share your feelings/write them letters that you donāt need to send. make lists of things you want to remember/learn from the relationship. Write lyrics yourself or lyrics of songs that remind you of them.
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for me it has been helpful to frame it as getting through heartbreak rather than over - iāve felt it is more of a journey rather than having an identifiable threshold or fixed point of being āoverā the person. so - these are my main recommendations for things to do to get through the heartbreak:
this isnāt true for everyone, but for me and most people i know, one of the worst things for processing is being around the person a bit right afterāitās like making your emotional process and brain not be on the same pageāso space is probably the #1 thing i recommend as being useful to fully processing that youāre not together romantically.
music (also films/shows too) can help you feel seen and understoodāheartbreak is a unique type of hurt. i have like 3-4 playlists from different heartbreaks i have been thru lol!
journaling, to process your emotions solo, though sometimes adding a therapist is needed!
hobbies (solo or with friends) so you can find ways to do positive & engaging things in your increased spare time! spend some extra time being in love with yourself. ā¤ļøāš©¹
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May 22, 2024
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1. it reminds you why youāre on this path and the light and hope that awaits you on the other side
2. it feels more satisfying than the, ā5 tips to get over someoneā articles due to the inexhaustible content
3. you could text him.. or you could seek out that dopamine hit youāll get when you read a random reddit comment from 5 years ago that validates you in just the right ways and renews your strength for just that little bit longer! no depressive crashes here
4. again.. the VALIDATION. there is nothing new under the sun and you will get through this
5. the horror stories will help you appreciate that things arenāt worse than they are <3
6. youāre basically playing therapist and detective, stitching together overarching narratives you may have missed while in the thick of it, psychoanalyzing the reasons for this breakdown, and most importantly realizing just how needful this move was for both parties. it all helps in bringing a sense of peace
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Apr 22, 2024
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This is so hard and different for everyone, Iām 2ish years post big break up and sometimes I feel consumed with thoughts about it all, other times itās out of my mind.
I suggest you fill your time!! I took up running, yoga, pottery, got a new job, got a cat, I try to travel, I date good amount even if I know Iām not ready for a BIG relationship I just want to keep meeting new people.
if You feel the need to talk about it but you canāt maybe try journaling or therapy? I write the worst poetry in the world whenever I canāt stop thinking of him and it gets me out of that cycle.
Love and life and heartbreak is hard and beautiful and shitty and fun!! if youāre still thinking about this person and relationship so long after, maybe you need to keep learning from it or maybe you need to cut yourself some slack!!
Mucho loveo
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I like the building up in the beginning and love the recognizability of the spoken parts. Itās longing pur sang.
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