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THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS NORMAL. Stop trying to be something that you are not, stop trying to be copy-paste <insert substyle that you do not even really like you just don't know who you are if you are not following a trend> for the longest time, I had no identity, I didn't know who I was outside of micro-trends and what was popping off on the internet. I wanted so badly to be normal that everything I tried was slowly but surely killing my spirit. People are clay. We are covered in little fingerprints, little specks of dust, and pieces of lint. No one person is without these things. Normalcy implies that there is a standard, uniform way to mold clay. You can never be normal, and that is so beautiful that's what makes life so worth it. I tried so long to figure out the "normal" way to live life that I missed out on so many things my teenage years are over, and they flew past me. I spent so long trying to be a normal teenager that I forgot that the most important part of this age is trying to figure out who you are by yourself through your actions, through your memories, and through the people around you, not by following what is normal. I will never be normal, and I am so grateful, I will always be ME. My spirit will be unique. My mind will remain creative. I will never be normal, and I don't want to be.
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This constant pressure I feel to be on top of trends, to be a trendsetter, and overall just be different from the crowd is soooo exhausting. The idea that you can never do anything original because "everything has already been done" is such a pessimistic way to view yourself and to filter your creativity through. But that constant strive to create and be something or someone unique only makes you feel like shit. At the end of the day no one is going to do something like you do it, you live a completely unique life regardless of everything that's ever been done or made. Who cares if in the end it's all just a jumble of things you've collected in your time? That's what makes it you. You are already unique enough.
(rambling on this site is my godsend)
Jun 9, 2024
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It would be hypocritical from me to say i donât follow trends, quite the opposite some of them can really be interesting and i âfollowâ them but i have no desire to fit in.
Everyday i embrace my soul, my heart and my mind because it took me years to be the Me of today and as an individual itâs totally normal to be unique in my own way.
I am unapologetically myself, no matter how much âtroubleâ it gets me with people i donât care. To be put in a box just to fit in or follow the ârulesâ was never something that i tolerated nor could handle.
I value self reliance and resent depending on someone
I am selective when it comes to socialising because i prefer being alone than having small talk
I question everything to be convinced before i accept it or do it
I am assertive, i express my needs, opinions and boundaries even if it means leading to a conflict with someone
I dont care about social pressure, i believe anyone can achieve anything at any age
I donât care about approval
I am always open to learn new stuff and never afraid to be seen as âuneducatedâ during the process
I donât wanna copy.
I am me, if i wanna read a kidâa book i will, if i wanna paint a tomato i will, if i wanna learn Russian i will, if i wanna wear a blazer with sweatpants because I think it looks good ON ME i WILL, me is ME and you is YOU.
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Jan 25, 2025
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I always felt alienated from people for not quite fitting in and all I ever wanted was to be normal. My therapist told me that thereâs no such thing and that I shouldnât compare myself to other people in that way because no two people have the same experiences, which felt like condescending gaslighting to me at the time but Iâve come to believe she was right.
Instead of chasing unattainable normalcy, Iâve started to see myself as extraordinaryâout of the ordinary. Itâs empowering to embrace my idiosyncratic nature and recognize that my peculiarities are what make me unique. So if youâve ever felt out of place, remember: being extraordinary means youâre living a life that only you can live đ„č
Oct 21, 2024
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Often people feel alone when they hear "no one is coming to save you" and yeah it's true, I was the only one who could save myself from the path I was going down, BUT everyone around me supported my growth, everyone who loved me showed me the same love before AND after I had changed. No one will save you but they're right beside you <3
Feb 23, 2025
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I made this up in like 10 minutes but this has been my thought process as an "ex" introvert
Should I Stay or Leave? A Decision Flowchart for Introverts
Am I feeling unsafe?
Yes â Is it because Iâm anxious, or is it a genuinely unsafe situation?If anxious/new: Wait 20 minutes to see if I acclimate.If still feeling unsafe after 20 minutes â Leave.
No â Move to the next step.
Am I feeling bored?
Yes â Can I find something interesting here?Yes â Engage with that.No â Suggest a more interesting activity.Did they change the activity?Yes â Stay and reassess.No â Stay for 20 more minutes.Still bored? â Leave.
No â Move to the next step.
Am I feeling uncomfortable?
Yes â Is it a normal level of discomfort?Yes â Give it 20 minutes and reassess.No â Leave.
No â Stay.
A reminder: Many people say, "Get comfortable being uncomfortable," but society often acts like being an introvert is a flaw, as if no normal person could be one. While it's good to challenge yourself, forcing yourself into situations that make you feel awful or completely uninterested isnât good for your mental health. Uncomfortable situations can help you grow, but if something makes you truly miserable, you should remove yourself. The best way to step out of your comfort zone is to understand why youâre introverted. I grew up introverted because I wasnât allowed to do much, but pushing myself outside my comfort zone helped me explore my personality. However, if youâre naturally introverted, thereâs no reason to force change. Instead, I recommend using a system to decide when to stay in a situation and when to leaveâlike a simple flowchart to guide your choices.
Feb 22, 2025