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ive been struggling on and off lately with depersonalization. i have to remind myself who i am, what i like to do, what my interests are, etc. ive been making kandi for around 7 years, so i found that what helped me most was making a messy single solely out of accent beads that i felt represent parts of myself or things that i like. i hope that anyone else who struggles with this can be inspired to do something similar. make an art piece, a sticker collage, a moodboard, a jewelry piece, anything that represents you. you are your own person, remember that and love yourself for it 💚
Feb 28, 2025
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i understand ur struggle, and its a very real thing to feel as though you have no identity in a capitalistic society that "sells" you your personality and interests. the best thing i reccommend you do is to unlearn that behavior first. unlearn to rely on items as a means of self expression. yes ofc fashion and makeup are great ways to express who you are (things that i love and partake in) but its important to recognize that this is a behavior we are taught; you buy something in the hopes it will achieve something, like how we buy band tees even tho we're total posers because we want to seem cooler than we really are. to live authentically and to discover who you really are as a person, you need to question WHO you are. what are your values? what are your thoughts on life? how do you feel about your existence? our life on this earth is limited and this is something everyone, regardless of religion, can agree on. instead of trying to find your identity thru what you can purchase, try to find it by questioning what it is you want from life. eventually, you will find that as you explore your values, morals, and desires you will naturally gravitate towards things that fulfill that. for example, i have a personal interest in human health and biology and i explored this interest by learning about nutrition. now, i love to cook and i love to make my own recipes. finding yourself shouldnt feel like a task that needs to get done. its more so something you do for the rest of your life, even as u die. to live is not "to find yourself", but rather to live a life that feels fulfilling. hope this helped!
Jan 9, 2025
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in my saturn return and im feeling everything more intensely than ever before. this may be obvious but, something that helps me lately is pausing when an intense feeling happens and breaking it down as much as I can/my mind + body allow me to.
example: i'm not as good as I used to be at making art.
things I ask myself:
-Who told you that?
-How do you know this is true?
-How does that feel in your body? Do we just need to feel it right now, that's okay if so!
-Is it something we can process right now or should we circle back to this when we have more mental space to do so?
-What would make this statement false in this moment?
-What is the emotionless truth underneath this statement? What's the desire? What's the conflict?
-What makes me "good at making art now?"
-What am I referring to when this statement comes up?
-Did social media contribute to this thought?
etc etc
It's a simple concept, but it's been really helpful for me in realizing that so many of my thoughts are not my own and are on auto pilot. But, How I digest these thoughts is in my control❤️
4d ago
my favorite thing to do is just start over with myself, like little things : my style, my hair. I think that i find myself being tied down to things that i’ve kinda branded myself as i didn’t realize that i can change..
Feb 24, 2025
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im an 18 year old bisexual, polyam trans man. also whispanic (cuban + puerto rican). i love collecting things (littlest pet shops, clown and jester dolls and figures, tokidoki, pins and buttons, rocks and crystals, shells and coral... etc etc). ive been making kandi for around 7 years, it's my special interest! also autistic with adhd so that's fun... i like to read, i like movies, i LOVE horror but i still shut my eyes at intense gore 😭 ive been teaching myself to sew lately and working on patch pants. i love all different kinds of music. gift giving is my primary love language, i work at dunkin, my room is a reflection of my interests, and i love funky fashion. outfits are my main form of self-expression :] also, here's a pic from roswell because it's my favorite place ive ever visted!
Feb 28, 2025
nobody irl has ever understood me the way she does before. i dont have to explain myself to her, but she lets me anyways because it makes me feel better. she has the most wonderful interests and the most vibrant personality, and she likes hearing about my interests, and whenever i talk to her about anything there's such a feeling of understanding. i called her one time in tears over something i struggle with due to autism that was negatively impacting me, and she told me how beautiful it is that my brain works differently and she wouldn't change a thing about me. i kind of downplayed it in my head until she called me crying a few days later over almost the exact same thing, and it really made me think about how if i can feel that for her, she really could feel that for me. i wouldn't change anything about her, and she truly gets me in a way that's so difficult to explain. she just understands me. im seeing her this weekend for an extremely belated valentines day celebration and im very excited :]
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