I had seen people casually before my current partner of almost 12 years, but never love.
I realized I could spend near infinite amount of time with him.
That I didnāt mind holding his hand in public
Or snuggling with him in front of my family
Or introducing him to my friends
Or calling him babe or love.
The idea of vacationing to him only sounded fun.
The idea of moving in together felt right and he felt the same way.
We revel/ed in love celebrations.
All of this happened for me within the first year and I was completely thrown off because I was always stressed out about the potential of being seen (both at all but especially as a spectacle that a relationship brings) and then with him I didnāt mind at all.
Mar 2, 2025
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sincere posting look away if ur not a lovestruck fool
sometimes i look at this man with so much love in my heart it feels like butterflies again. i have best friends, of course. i love them so much and they will be in my life forever. but in these moments iām struck with the thought āyou are truly my best friend.ā in past relationships, iād try to force that feeling. now, it really does just occur to me. i get so excited for forever with him. most days, itās not like this. most days weāre just together and thereās no stress or worry about our relationship. weāre just two people together, happy and thatās that. i am so used to this kind of love, itās become my normal. but some days, i am struck by how in love i am and how lucky i am.
the first time i realized this was forever, a part of me felt weird about that. i had to say goodbye to the part of me that loved first dates, first kisses, and the āwill they wonāt they.ā Forever was always what I was looking for, but when presented with it, I worried about never feeling that way again.
Anyway, I donāt get first date feelings now, and Iāll never kiss someone new. But this feeling is so much better. Heās asleep right now, and I cannot wait for him to wake up so I can spend another day laughing with him.
Jan 29, 2024
now i am a very lucky person because i am in love with some who was once one of my best friends. (sadly this rec probably isnāt universally applicable but contains good lessons i hope!) iād met him during the first week of freshman year of college, and we immediately became close. hung out a ton and related on a lot of issues/values but our interactions were always platonic.
by wintertime we were being seen together around campus a ton, to the point that our acquaintances started asking whether we were a couple. weād laugh at the idea, even joking about it ourselves. oh how oblivious we were.
spring rolled around and i suddenly caught feelings. for a couple weeks i tried to convince myself i didnāt like him because i was so afraid of losing our beautiful friendship. i thought it impossible that he would feel the same as me. yes, pretty torturous!! alas, my Emotional Suppression didnāt work. thank god, because one night when we were hanging out in my room he finally kissed me. i had been so afraid but instantly i knew it was right. the risk was worth it.
weāve now been together for almost two years and he is truly the love of my life. he is the best risk Iāve ever taken. yes this is so platitudinous, but sometimes love comes when you least expect it and appears in odd places!
more generally, i think
- looking for people whose values align with yours is a wonderful place to start establishing intimate and long-lasting relationships, both platonic and romantic.
- itās never worthwhile to force something to work out if your gut tells you itās wrong ā youāre worth more than that. love doesnāt thrive when itās fed by obligation and pressure.
- donāt be afraid to present yourself in your full authenticity to others. if someone else has a problem with You in your Grandest Expression, theyāre not worth your energy. love is meant to affirm and expand who you are, not place boundaries on it.
- go on self dates and explore what it means to have a loving relationship with yourself! you, as a singular self, are already whole and enough without having a partner. you are complete as a baseline regardless of your relationship status; a partner is meant to complement and embrace this wholeness!!
love is ridiculous and hard and beautiful; trust it when you feel it!!
Nov 10, 2024
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seeing them, hearing them, holding their hand. the way everything inside me feels calm and settled when i'm with them and yet from time to time i get the urge to jump and spill kisses on their face because of how much i'm overcome with a sunlight-like feeling inside of me, the way i want to give them everything i see and have, do anything i can for them, hold them and touch their skin any given moment, share every little detail of my day-to-day life, feel them kiss my forehead, do errands together with them, hear them tell me they love me, the way they've become such a natural and essential part of my life, the way everything around me lightens with their presence
Jan 17, 2025
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Ended up having a nickel allergy that basically keeps me from wearing any earrings so maybe I should get back into these little guys.
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