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singularity or something

I'm sure there's an actual name for this but I'm blanking on it at the moment. I try to live under the idea that we're all one being. That in everybody is a piece of me, and in me a piece of everyone else. I guess it's like an extrapolation of 'the golden rule'. But I think to myself like, if I was being ignorant, I'd want someone to have a conversation with me and help me understand where I was wrong. If I was having a bad day and was visibly frustrated in line, I'd want to have someone stop and ask me how I was doing. I think most negative people are just hurt. The longer you go without talking about what's bothering you, the more bitter you get. Most people, no matter how they're acting, change when you ask them if they're ok. Most of the time (I'll admit, there's some exceptions lol) its better to be sympathetic rather than defensive. It's easy to get heated but it takes a lot of patience to really try to understand. Stranger or not, I do my best to help rather than provoke. We've all got our bad days, but that doesn't mean we aren't deserving of compassion.

@sethywethy

Jan 28, 2025

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Nuance

I’ve been working on trying to resist internet pile-ons, and not in a contarian for contrarian’s sake way. I think it’s more interesting to find out what’s actually happening and search for context and perspective. There’s usually a lot more to each story and it leads to more interesting ideas and conversations. Allowing for more empathy and forgiveness toward others also ultimately leads to more grace for yourself when you make a mistake. Sometimes people are jerks and sometimes people say the wrong thing and sometimes people run with something without understanding what someone is actually saying. I’m resolving to look for nuance first before assuming the worst.

@Shadowbeni

Mar 20, 2024

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anti-rec / pet peeve — Mind reading

It really cheeses me off when people think they know what others are thinking or what makes them tick or what their motivations are for something. Recently heard someone say, "Oh the whole reason 'Brad' did good at [this thing] is because he got social validation from his success." And I said, "Oh really, did Brad tell you that?" And of course the answer was no, Brad never said that. It was just a great big assumption about Brad's motives—and a negative assumption at that. You contain multitudes. I contain multitudes. We contain multitudes. We are right now the living, breathing, growing sum of a trillion different factors. It is far more interesting and fulfilling to be curious and ask and be surprised than to project our narrow, limited assumptions on others. (apparently this is a bit of a theme for me today since I already posted about it in another form) And if you find yourself mind reading and assuming and putting others in a box, then you know what, no worries! Me too sometimes. But let's not stay there.

@mattshawsome

Oct 19, 2024

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Dear God what have i made

@ugliestbinch

Mar 1, 2025

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Tbh, i mostly hate the re-rec feature

Maybe this isn’t so much a fix for staff, but I feel like the reposting of things has gotten a bit lame. I don’t want the “Everyone” feed to be the same post 20 times with nothing added, especially when the thing being re-rec’d isn’t even a real reccomendation in the first place. I like this app because it is different than Instagram and Twitter and tumblr and the like. I feel like people are trying to interact similarly to those other apps here. I feel like we are all drifting back into creating the same social media AGAIN. My vote would be to remove the feature entirely, but I see how it can be used thoughtfully

@ugliestbinch

Mar 3, 2025

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I make jewelry!

I like to make jewelry that would fulfill my inner child’s wishlist! I also sell the jewelry and I like to do silly photoshoots and edit the pictures to show it off. Like tow arts in one

@ugliestbinch

Jan 16, 2025

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