Rec | A NOTE TO MYSELF (AND TO ANYBODY WHO NEED THIS)

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a note to myself (and to anybody who need this)

you don't owe beauty to anyone, not even to yourself. put aside the unrealistic standards that were imposed (directley or indirectly) on yourself. you came into the world to be more than just "pretty". you are intelligent, funny, interesting, creative...you are so much more than beauty! you came into the world to create, to inspire, to LIVE. ENOUGH OF BEING A PRISONER OF YOUR OWN BODY.

@vi4vendetta

4d ago

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