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Rec'd on 🧭 tips on combating burnout and developing discipline again?

Firstly I am in the same boat to an absolute T. I have found that on two days of the week I just have to come home and rot because I’m tired. But later in the week I have a bit more energy, so I’ve been going to a weekly swim group on Friday and going out on weekends to events/ exhibition. I have found I have to like drip feed myself or I get overwhelmed and rot even more. My next step is to try build more of a routine to stop myself from crawling into bed the second I get home. It takes patience but I have been feeling a bit better recently :)

@moonshadows

Mar 12, 2025

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@meggle

Thank you for sharing! As much as I don't want anyone to feel this way, it's comforting to know that we're not alone! This sounds like such a good idea, I'm not even aware of what days I do have energy, so I like this idea of taking stock and drip-feeding. Thank you for this tip, I hope you continue to feel better!! :)

Mar 12, 2025

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