Iāve had periods where Iāve really struggled with this too. Before I give my rec, I want to emphasize that I think we all experience cycles in our behavior where we āmake progressā (whatever that means for you!) and then we donāt - and thatās really okay. I would start by figuring out if your body is physically okay. Lethargy/fatigue is a biological response to a lot of different things and it may be the result of unexpected health stuff! So donāt discount a doctorās visit. But mental health/stress really contributes to this for me, and it is often the biggest thing that breaks my healthy routines. This is where the loop comes in: healthy routines combat stress, but stress breaks up healthy routines. So that first day you start the healthy routine cycle is really important! For me healthy routines start with good sleep hygiene. If youāve been rotting in bed a lot and your sleep cycle is screwed, re-establishing that may be difficult. I would recommend supplementing your body with physical movement - preferably something rigorous (for your level) but also gives you joy!! No boring gym time - do whatever gives you endorphins. Consistent activity is really key for your body to not fall into a doom loop. And lastly, do the things you need to do to combat your stress. Set yourself up so that you feel you are taking meaningful steps towards progress. Start with the small stuff and donāt discount them!!! Often the small tasks are the ones that break us because they seem innumerable (for me itās always been folding laundry). But just remember, every small thing you do is progress and that will build your momentum.
I believe in ya! You have the power to change this, slowly but surely.
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pro tip from the linked video is to create 3 different routines and follow them according to energy levels:
1. a minimum routine w the non negotiables (hygiene, hydrate, get some kind of meal etc etc)
2. a standard day routine thatās achievable most days (maybe you do the 15 min of yoga or your extended skincare routine and have a nice breakfast and tea on top of the minimum routine)
3. an ideal full routine when you have an abundance of time and or energy (go crazy do it all take a long walk and read for a while or create your art)
you can make these for morning or night or full day structure! but the point is to do what suits you to relieve the pressure of needing to stick to something that may not always fit into your realistic day. good luck soldier you got this
Nov 7, 2024
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Iām not gonna get into my whole night routine but know that I am a mother of two young children and while that makes it harder to do some kind of wind down nightly ritual, it is not impossible. I will note that because of our work schedules, we are working during normal dinner time, so I make dinner in the afternoon and usually eat that big meal early and have more of a lunch kind of situation later.
My projection is that everybody hates when I recommend meditation, but I recommend it because it actually works. You donāt have to do it for a long time, but doing a guided meditation for even five minutes can help Relax your mind and body. Yoga can be very meditative while also moving your body, so kind of a two birds one stone situation with that.
Iām a big water person so a shower and bath will immediately relax me. Journaling at night has at time been very useful, or laying down and listening to an album. I actually just recently started using a sound machine that plays a thunderstorm because I felt it helped my 5 month old and we all like it.
What is your day like that you are going to the point of exhaustion and then passing out? Are you not scheduling time outside of work to have to yourself? Are you psychologically emotionally avoiding feeling things so you donāt actually want to relax? A nightly ritual doesnāt have to be longer complicated, just different from what youāre doing the whole rest of the day.
Building new habits and changing your routine is hard. Start small and donāt bite off more than you can chew. Start by changing one thing and once you have that down, add in or take away something else.
Sep 8, 2024
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Start small, be graciousā I think the two ways that we often kill routines or goals is that we start where we want to end (ex, āI will run a marathon this yearā instead of āI will go for a run once a weekā), and we get discouraged by setbacks, or see them as final.
Start with a keystone habitā like making the bed every morning, or putting coffee on. Making the bed makes it easier to stay out of bed during the day, and putting coffee on can anchor your breakfast routine. If you drink tea, maybe fill your kettle and put a teabag in your favorite mug at night, so itās ready in the morning.
If your goal is building a routine, try setting three alarms: one in the morning, one at midday, and one in the early evening. This is a good way to be aware of time and break your day into segments.
Feb 18, 2025
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.+ great music/dj
.+ mechanical bull riding is an equal opportunity spectacle sport that makes everyone look sexy
.+ gay go-go dancers
.- creepy men
.- āwomen only dance platformā really just unpaid labor and a lil weird
We may have just gone on a good nightā¦
May 13, 2024
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.+ fun + cute + quirky. iāll share the names and you guess the types of music:
12 am party playtime
2 am art haus
3 am open haus
4 am trance and transformation
6 am sundrops and sadness
6 pm cigars and salsa
7 pm fruits loops and grass
10 pm the motherland calls
11 pm baja blast to the past
im only now seeing that i have no playlists themed for daylight. iāll work on it
May 14, 2024
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my ex and i had a really intense romantic and creative connection. we made each other feel safe enough to share our naivety and expression. we created a lot together in a variety of mediums like movement, clay, drawings, paintings, and writing.
throughout the first few months dating her i wrote poems about her, how i felt, and some cherished memories we had together. i collected those poems in a mini zine that i made tiny illustrations for which matched the imagery and metaphors i used. it was the first time anyone had ever written poems about her - i think she really liked it.
even though we arenāt together anymore, i really cherish that i made her feel held so warmly. humans deserve that kindness.
May 14, 2024