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i finally decided to quit smoking for good this year. however…the one thing holding me back was the wonderful, communal feeling of sharing a cig with strangers outside a bar.
luckily, you can always be the person with the lighter on hand when people need one.
you still experience that nice, warm bonding feeling without actually smoking. plus you’re being of service to others, which deepens the connection <3
Feb 10, 2024
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Ever since I quit nicotine I don't deprive myself of a cigarette when I feel like I really need it. So it hits different, because when my emotional state is low all it takes is a cig break to feel like I'm confronting whatever it is that's weighing me down. This system is fool-proof. Sometimes I think I'm low enough for a cigarette then decide I'm not quite sad enough. So when I do smoke it's because I'm crying & absolutely losing it. Because my smoke breaks are spontaneous, I can't quite plan for them, leading to unfinished packs & a plethora of lighters. Funny enough, each lighter coincides with whatever was making me feel awful that day making it a journal of sorts for my feelings. My fav is the "take me with you" lighter because well.. I really related to that when I bought it. There's also something really protagonist-y about walking into a gas station, eyes puffy & tears streaming down your face & asking for a pack of camel menthols ... oh & a swag lighter.
Sep 19, 2024
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not good for your health but good for your soul. meeting up outside after my shift and this one guy wordlessly offering me his lit cigarette because he knows. we are connecting and it’s the ‘casual intimacy of sharing something that touches your lips’ or what have you
Oct 29, 2024
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aka being a keeper of the flame. I rarely smoke but I like that I can provide when people ask me for a light.
May 8, 2024
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doubles as a safety tip & an exercise in imagination. last week I was an accountant. next week…who knows?
Jan 26, 2024
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forgot you could do this and it rocks
Jan 26, 2024
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I keep every single card I receive in a little box & re-read them from time to time. it reminds me that I exist in relation to others & that they recognize sweet things in me & want the best for me💌
Jan 31, 2024