i used to constantly compare myself to others in my twenties and it made me feel so bad. now i'm in my thirties and i try to shift that focus onto myself by thinking about how i can improve myself by comparing myself to past me!! i def mess up all the time so i can only continue to grow and become more powerful. don't forget to love yourself and have gratitude for the things you are good at. make lists in ur journal of stuff u love abt u :3
Feb 18, 2024
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I have had to learn to give myself grace and allow myself to grow. I tend to be hard on myself and want to find the quickest way to success. I know success takes time and I must be patient with myself. I am working on comparing myself less and truly trying to work on myself. I've found that getting into a routine has been the most helpful thing I can do for my mental health. I've learned how to say no and set boundaries for myself to avoid burn out. The 20s are such an interesting time, my mantra: you cannot worry about the things you have zero control over <3
Jan 4, 2025
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Iām about to turn 30 and idk if my 21 year old self would approve of where Iām atābut my 6 year old self sure as hell would!! I think a lot of life is finding your way back to Little You.
Being 21 is so so hard, and in college youāre first starting to see that you canāt judge your progress based on other people. Even though thatās how you were taught to judge yourself up until this point. The things you want now probably wonāt matter to you in a few years, and for me that would have sounded terrifying at 21. But that doesnāt mean the things you want now arenāt important.
You can think of it in terms of tattoos. If you get a tattoo at 16 itās not because you know it will represent you always and foreverāitās to commemorate a moment, a feeling of boldness you wanted to wear proudly. And down the line you donāt look at it with regret, but a softness for that younger part of you. Feel your feelings fully in this moment! Be bold with what you care about! Every age is special.
Practical advice:
Try to listen to your body and not your head. Do I actually like how I feel spending time with this person? Am I going through the motions of this hobby because I think it will service something else? Does xyz come naturally to me, or does it feel forced? No action needed. This exercise isnāt about flipping your life upside down, just take notice of how your body feels in certain situations. Start to notice when youāre in fight or flight versus happy and free. Find the ease and follow it
Jan 25, 2025
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as a 25 year old who had just turned 21 right before the pandemic hit i often have very similar feelings that i missed out on a formative time of my youth and that im ābehindā where i should be right now (especially in terms of self/identity development), whatās helps me is i try to zoom my thoughts waaayyyy out and think about how when im older someday ill prob envy 25 year olds too and then i decide to just try my hardest to live in the moment forever and cherish being here in the first place cause in the grand scheme of things aging is a gift!!!! easier said than done of course but this is what helps me
Jul 12, 2024
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choose a band you like. look up the label and listen to everything else under it that you havent heard š¤ google the label owner, see if they have their hands in other labels. if yr lazy, lurk ur friends spotify playlists <3
Mar 21, 2024
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if i am presented with an intrusive thought about ppl who do not like me for my past mistakes (they're probably not thinking about me key word intrusive) i shift my focus onto my friends who love me for who i have grown into (less unhinged) it is freeing šļø
Apr 4, 2024