It's funny isn't it, how often we compare ourselves to others when we are looking up and forward. Which is something I think you might be doing, looking forward instead of constantly looking back.
To preface I don't know you enough to make any assumption or tell you what to do, but this could be something you can fall back to that's in the back of your head whenever you feel this way!
Enjoy the little things! I doubt telling you not to feel this way or keep telling yourself you're awesome would work because they never worked on me, so just enjoy the little moments in life that makes you -- if not smile -- smirk a bit. You saw something that reminds you of a fond memory, you did something new that is small yet unique to you? celebrate those moments because those moments are what makes you inherently you.
Someone here also said familiarity of yourself can be a way making you feel lame, but isn't that also such a gift because you are so in tune with yourself? You know what you're doing even if you think they are nothing comparing to others.
And ultimately, maybe this could be a starting point for you to create/try/ experiment things too! If you think of yourself so far back already, what's to loose for you to break the status quo? right? Be the dryer sheet that could cause fire and burn down the entire house or something hehe. And if it goes to shit we just won't tell anybody about it. HA!
To quote what I've seen somewhere during my lowest low during the pandemic-
"There is no one like you, there has never been anyone like you, and there will never be anyone like you. Therefore, be yourself" beep boop bop beep boop
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Firstly, Iâm so sorry youâre feeling that wayâ thatâs really crummy, and Iâm sure that once you feel that way everything feels like confirmation of being unspecial. But in a very very real way, you might be bored with yourself because you know yourself so wellâ other people donât know you. You could walk into a bar or a cafe or an event and you would be new to at least one person there. If you feel like you arenât interesting conversationally, are you a good listener? In a very honest way, the people Iâve found hottest and most intriguing are always good listeners, and people who are quiet and incisive. Itâs okay if you donât talk on and on; a lot of âinterestingâ people are just filling space with noise. Noise is always briefly exciting or interesting, but that doesnât mean it has substance or adds value. Trust me on this, Iâm a performer and frankly so many nights Iâm just making noise.
So first piece of advice is, approach yourself as if you were a strangerâ look at everything about you like youâve never ever seen it before, and start to notice what you like. Then build on those things. Like, itâs okay if you hate your clothes, but do you have one jacket/shirt/earring that you love? Wear that so much, and slowly look out for pieces that make you feel like the thing you loveâ itâs okay if it takes time, the outfits that make me feel dynamic are all cobbled together from stuff I found over years.
Then look at other people, what do you find interesting about them? I am a knockoff of every woman I ever thought was coolâ my summer camp counselor, my gender studies TA from my first year of college, my mom, and literally everyone else. Thatâs okay though, mimicking what you like is a way of developing your taste, and you will put yourself together in a way thatâs a little different and totally your own.
Itâs okay if it takes timeâ sometimes we have seasons where we donât like ourselves a ton, but they do pass, and who you will be in a year is a brand new personâ you havenât met them yet, and you might love them. Tiny practical advice? Go for walks; itâs good for your body, it releases endorphins, and it gives you a chance to people watch/observe nature. Read something small; it can be a single poem, or an essay, or a childrenâs bookâ I love Howlâs Moving Castle and if Iâm feeling stuck in a rut I read that, even though itâs a childrenâs book. If reading isnât your thing watch a movie or a TV episode, but whatever you consume, watch it and take notes, like youâre a secret criticâ note what you liked, whether itâs costumes or language or the vibe, and what you didnât, and then you can find more things like itâ thatâs how you develop your own taste, and itâs a good way to develop language around art and media.
All critics and essayists and everyone whose job is to write interestingly about art started with shit they liked in middle school, and built on that to find their own languageâ you can do that too.
Sorry for the hugely long post, but I promise that you are more interesting than you give yourself credit for, and there are people in the world who will see that.
Feb 19, 2024
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This constant pressure I feel to be on top of trends, to be a trendsetter, and overall just be different from the crowd is soooo exhausting. The idea that you can never do anything original because "everything has already been done" is such a pessimistic way to view yourself and to filter your creativity through. But that constant strive to create and be something or someone unique only makes you feel like shit. At the end of the day no one is going to do something like you do it, you live a completely unique life regardless of everything that's ever been done or made. Who cares if in the end it's all just a jumble of things you've collected in your time? That's what makes it you. You are already unique enough.
(rambling on this site is my godsend)
Jun 9, 2024
Itâs incredible how many people genuinely think they are boring. There have been so many times Iâve spoken with people and they confess that they think that they havenât done much with their life, or that they donât have much interesting to talk about, but itâs almost never the case.
From what I can tell, itâs often caused by a lack of knowing thyself. Or maybe a low self esteem? Iâve been through it too, and it is so so not true for anyone.
Youâve done so much living. Why do you feel like your story is not worth telling? I know youâve gone through some crazy shit once or twice. if you really havenât, whatâs stopping you from getting out there and creating stories to talk about? Start small! go to a coffee shop once a week. See if they have any clubs to join, and try that out! youâll be making memories in NO TIME.
If you have trouble finding meaningful/fun conversation, just remember that the effort must flow both ways. You are merely just working with what the other person is providing you, and if they arenât giving you anything to work with, itâs not your fault. You arenât boring, you are just around people who dont vibe with you. And thatâs okay! Not every person is going to be your specific kind of person. Plus, if you arenât having fun talking to them, why does it matter if they like you? the much cooler people who value your input are just around the corner. I promise.
One day youâll be able to shine your beautiful personality on someone who is equally as bright you are, you magnificent comet, you.
Feb 13, 2025
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Do I find myself being a reply guy sometimes? Yes.
Does it brings me joy whenever my friends or someone unexpected replied to my stories? Yes.
Would you still reply to their stuff if you genuinely donât give a shit and they uninterest you but not to the level you mute their content? No.
So why not? We talk down ourselves so often let me lift you up , one âhell yeahâ âLFGâ at a time
Sep 23, 2024
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Canât be condescending and judgmental if you arenât productive and getting shit done. so hop to it little hater
May 23, 2024
Thereâs something special and beautiful about documenting the moment your friends shine the most. When theyâre pouring their heart and soul making something a reality for them and youâre there to capture every moment around them.
Feb 2, 2024