currently live a car ride away from ~everything which is making me feel very sad and isolated. the public transit situation is pretty rough too. iām excited to be where i can just walk to fun and new and interesting places.
but first, i have to figure how one locates and secures an apartment on their own...
Mar 23, 2024
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I LOVE THE CITY omg iām so excited i move so soon and i get a new space for a bunch of new stuff and itās so awesome and its so close to work and downtown RAAAAA
May 4, 2024
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This weekend i left town at 4 am to roadtrip to (redacted big city) with my mom then just did a deep dive of towns in the metropolitan area. Having her with me was incredible. She knew to approach friendly strangers at gas stations and barber shops about how good of areas are these.
Then after gaining so much intel and hunting down so many rental signs. We grabbed dinner with some friends i have out in this area, 2 more people i also lean on quite a bit. To my surprise we didnāt talk extensively about the hunt for places to the degree i assumed we would. Afterwards i went to a party with my friends and chatted with a friend of my friends about me working on making the leap.
I still have ways to go but have started to hear about people i know through a person who knows a person who knows a person who have job openings whom live over there and other rental properties that have popped up.
Basically alot of jotting info down, being proactive, and talking with people about it. Has been the move in making progress. And crossing my fingers i land what i want.
Feb 10, 2025
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my partner and i were presented with the opportunity to move into a friendās slightly larger and more amenitied apartment up the block, but weād have to break our lease to do so lol
listed our apartment on facebook marketplace to see if anyone was interested in signing the lease so we could move, essentially just putting out feelers and seeing what happened. did not expect to receive dozens upon dozens of messages! i scheduled tours and showed like six people around, all of whom were like where can i sign! and i called our landlord twice.
met with the landlord of the new place and got the paperworkā¦.. truly in the final stepsā¦. only to get home and realize, you know what,,, weāre staying here! and it was literally such a relief to say it.
did it take hundreds of messages from people begging for me to leave my apartment to truly viscerally process that iāve got a good thing? perhaps!
but i think it was more that i had been in a scarcity mindset of like, āwhen we move and i have more space iāll be able toā¦ make the art i want; really feel at home; feel more comfortable; etc.ā and when i really dug into those feelings about it, i simply knew that my home right now presents a growth opportunity to work creatively with the space i have.
didnāt want to admit to myself that i was in that space of forcing things because i initially just wanted to move so badly, i was literally bypassing my felt experience and like, true reactions.
i also felt like it fell into our laps and was this once-in-a-lifetime thing. but really trying to now reinforce that a two bedroom w a dishwasher, balcony, and some bedrooms that look out onto the neighborsā walls is not inimitable. and i want to approach this process from a space where im resourced and generally tranquil.
so iām happy and iām not moving and im going to buy myself an $8 latte this morning to celebrate!!!!
Apr 25, 2024
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sincerity is cool, caring is cool, you are all cool
Feb 28, 2024
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the first thing to be said is that this recommendation applies equally to everyone
the next thing to be said is that you have, inevitably, been suffering from a cocktail of depression and anxiety for more than a decade, and this has made you incredibly tired
what you need is to make NYE plans with a good friend you haven't seen in years; she will bring you out to the club and it will be fuckin rad; you'll buy some cute clothes and she'll do your makeup, despite these not being things you really ever do, and you'll forget how much you typically disdain your appearance for one night
next, you're going to have to just read for awhile, books and essays and youtube comments and text messages
after enough reading, you'll have your own thoughts and questions, and you'll inevitably see someone else asking the question "am i trans?"
reading this question will naturally lead to you asking yourself: "am i trans?"
the answer is yes
at this point, you have transitioned into a girl, and everything else is just showing off; decide on a new name; get a therapist and a doctor who are supportive; pump your body full of the hormones it needs; get some cute new clothes and burn your old shit; ask for help picking out and doing your makeup
stop treating your body like a shipping container for your sad brain; transform it into the hot girl your brain already knows you are
Feb 28, 2024
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