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I donât mean this in a letâs enforce toxic positivity way. And maybe this sounds simple and obvious but Iâve learned from my own experience and observations that it can be off-putting to others to always be complaining, criticizing, or saying negative things! It can really bring the energy down whether itâs in interactions with close friends, significant others, family, coworkers, dates, or strangers and it doesnât make people feel good.
This isnât to say that you should never have critical thoughts, engage in difficult conversations, or share your heavy emotions with people you trust. but I think this is something people can do without even realizing itâs a pattern for them and it has an effect on your own psyche as well imo⊠and it feels great to bring a little light into someoneâs day đŠïž
Apr 19, 2024
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why be negative when you can be positive. If you see someone do something dumb just ignore it (unless itâs especially funny then you can share it with friends another time).
We only live once so best to focus on the positives. When youâre nice to others you feel much better yourself. And everyoneâs constantly learning, making mistakes anyway so while other people may seem uninformed sometimes, you also will be at points and you wouldnât want to be ridiculed for that.
As for others being negative, just nod along and ignore. Or try to change the topic.
Jan 28, 2025
I often dress my daughter to mimic me, but on some days she requests it for herself (hats and loose jeans and layers and shirts with cars on them). Letting her figure out her personal style at 3 is exciting and adorable.
At the park today, when she took off her jacket and hoodie, she was running around in a Cars t-shirt and the hat and a lady approached me and said âWow he sure does have long hair for a boy!â to which I corrected her and explained that sheâs in fact a girl, to which she said âWell why do you have her dressed like that then?â
âŠsighâŠ
Look, my wife and I arenât the type to be offended by the accidental misgender, it happens with kids all the time. But what does bother me is that itâs clear she started the convo only to critique the clothing choices that my daughter, a literal 3 year old, made. It got me thinking likeâŠhow sad do you have to be to go out of your way to release the inner dialogue you have in your mind, knowing that youâre only doing it to start issues? Really would have taken no energy to not say anything at all!
I politely dismissed myself from the convo and we moved on to the swings, but I do think everyone should consider just keeping quiet more often. Thereâs no need to say certain things. I wasnât bothered by it, but I can imagine that someone else could have been and that would have been its own fun conflict to resolve.
I guess the elementary school proverb still holds true today: If you canât say something nice, donât say anything at all!
Sep 9, 2024
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in other words, cut toxic people. if youâre not having lots of laughs with people you enjoy being around, youâre doing it wrong.
Jan 27, 2024
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My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebodyâbe it a relative or one of my best friendsâwas to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too đ
Feb 23, 2025
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Feb 27, 2025
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Iâve been thinking about how much of social media is centered around curating our self-image. When selfies first became popular, they were dismissed as vain and vapidâa critique often rooted in misogynyâbut now, the way we craft our online selves feels more like creating monuments.
We try to signal our individuality, hoping to be seen and understood, but ironically, I think this widens the gap between how others perceive us and who we really are. Instead of fostering connection, it can invite projection and misinterpretationâpreconceived notions, prefab labels, and stereotypes. Worse, individuality has become branded and commodified, reducing our identities to products for others to consume.
On most platforms, validation often comes from how well you can curate and present your imageâselfies, aesthetic branding, and lifestyle content tend to dominate. High engagement is tied to visibility, not necessarily depth or substance. But I think spaces like PI.FYI show that thereâs another way: where connection is built on shared ideas, tastes, and interests rather than surface-level content. Itâs refreshing to be part of a community that values thoughts over optics.
By sharing so few images of myself, Iâve found that it gives others room to focus on my ideas and voice. When I do share an image, it feels intentionalâsomething that contributes to the story I want to tell rather than defining it. Sharing less allows me to express who I am beyond appearance.
For women, especially, sharing less can be a radical act in a world where the default is to objectify ourselves. It resists the pressure to center appearance, focusing instead on what truly matters: our thoughts, voices, and authenticity. Iâve posted a handful of pictures of myself in 2,500 posts because I care more about showing who I am than how I look.
In trying to be seen, are we making it harder for others to truly know us? Itâs a question worth considering.
Dec 27, 2024