why be negative when you can be positive. If you see someone do something dumb just ignore it (unless itās especially funny then you can share it with friends another time).
We only live once so best to focus on the positives. When youāre nice to others you feel much better yourself. And everyoneās constantly learning, making mistakes anyway so while other people may seem uninformed sometimes, you also will be at points and you wouldnāt want to be ridiculed for that.
As for others being negative, just nod along and ignore. Or try to change the topic.
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I donāt mean this in a letās enforce toxic positivity way. And maybe this sounds simple and obvious but Iāve learned from my own experience and observations that it can be off-putting to others to always be complaining, criticizing, or saying negative things! It can really bring the energy down whether itās in interactions with close friends, significant others, family, coworkers, dates, or strangers and it doesnāt make people feel good.
This isnāt to say that you should never have critical thoughts, engage in difficult conversations, or share your heavy emotions with people you trust. but I think this is something people can do without even realizing itās a pattern for them and it has an effect on your own psyche as well imoā¦ and it feels great to bring a little light into someoneās day š¦ļø
Apr 19, 2024
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I think everyone just needs to have more compassion and stop being so annoying online. Everyone treats politics like fashion trends. Just be a good person.
Sep 15, 2022
I often dress my daughter to mimic me, but on some days she requests it for herself (hats and loose jeans and layers and shirts with cars on them). Letting her figure out her personal style at 3 is exciting and adorable.
At the park today, when she took off her jacket and hoodie, she was running around in a Cars t-shirt and the hat and a lady approached me and said āWow he sure does have long hair for a boy!ā to which I corrected her and explained that sheās in fact a girl, to which she said āWell why do you have her dressed like that then?ā
ā¦sighā¦
Look, my wife and I arenāt the type to be offended by the accidental misgender, it happens with kids all the time. But what does bother me is that itās clear she started the convo only to critique the clothing choices that my daughter, a literal 3 year old, made. It got me thinking likeā¦how sad do you have to be to go out of your way to release the inner dialogue you have in your mind, knowing that youāre only doing it to start issues? Really would have taken no energy to not say anything at all!
I politely dismissed myself from the convo and we moved on to the swings, but I do think everyone should consider just keeping quiet more often. Thereās no need to say certain things. I wasnāt bothered by it, but I can imagine that someone else could have been and that would have been its own fun conflict to resolve.
I guess the elementary school proverb still holds true today: If you canāt say something nice, donāt say anything at all!
Sep 9, 2024
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I love the night vibes but itās also lovely to finally see a bit of light at that time, after about 4 months of pitch black darkness. Makes the commute back home happier and less tiring.
Feb 25, 2025
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Nice ask, made me think about whatās important to me
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FAVES:
Animals (especially cats)
Nature
Friends + fam
Museums
History (especially classical)
Art
Star Wars
Indiana Jones
DC
Comics
Videogames
Physical media
LEGO
Improv
Fencing
Ultimate Frisbee
Tennis
F1
Phone (as unhealthy as it is)
Youtube
Empathy
Dancing while alone
Late nights
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UNFAVES:
When itās too cold
When itās too hot
The beach
Ice cream (I am the antethesis of a summer person for someone born in July)
human feet
Getting up early
stopping the unfave list here before I give TMI :p
Jan 23, 2025