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doesn’t have to be for the peace and gratification of the people you forgive; it can be for yourself where you recognize that they’re not part of your life anymore, there’s nothing you can do to change what happened, and you don’t have to let them continue to make you suffer from anger. I love Tara Brach’s guided meditations on this and on letting go.
I think also anger is often a protective emotion that covers deeper more vulnerable emotions like feelings of betrayal, shame, sadness, etc. You might find these hiding under your protective shell if you look for them.
I would recommend to people struggling with anger and resentment to also try doing chakra yoga starting at the root and working your way up because this will address and help to clear up some of those underlying feelings first so that you can process in a more clear way.
And Thich Nhat Hanh’s book on anger is great!
Apr 24, 2024
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first things first: u never have to forgive someone if u don’t want to. sometimes there is no reason to not move on from a situation, but that’s still your right. you should take all the time u need to make peace with urself and what happened.
my dad once told me that the worst thing you can do to urself is to wish someone else ill will. giving ur energy and thoughts to a situation or person in a way that doesn’t help you process what happened, but only serves to make u upset, is a disservice to urself and ur time. u deserve to be happy and u deserve peace.
look of it as a way of letting go of the negative thoughts and emotions that that situation causes u. forgiving someone doesn’t necessarily mean ur justifying what they did, but instead respecting ur right to be happy. u can forgive someone and still not continue that relationship with them. seeing forgiveness as a way to allow urself to grow past a situation and not define urself by it, instead of as a mandatory ritual after someone has wronged you, has helped me to move past people and situations that have hurt me and kept me from growing.
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Living life independent of grudges, while often difficult, is an essential component of spiritual freedom. Forgiving those who have hurt you allows for positive connections to be fully received with an open heart. Forgiving yourself protects you from the burden of toxic shame, and allows you to look forward to the prospect of self-improvement.
Jan 2, 2024
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It’s easier said than done but forgiveness is key to accepting someone else’s flawed humanity and in turn recognising and accepting your own. There’s a feeling of serenity that comes with letting go of things that have already happened. We only ever truly have this moment anyway. Why are you here?
Feb 22, 2025
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My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebody—be it a relative or one of my best friends—was to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too 💌
Feb 23, 2025
Schedule sent my resignation email for the morning, effective immediately ✅💅
Feb 27, 2025
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I’ve been thinking about how much of social media is centered around curating our self-image. When selfies first became popular, they were dismissed as vain and vapid—a critique often rooted in misogyny—but now, the way we craft our online selves feels more like creating monuments.
We try to signal our individuality, hoping to be seen and understood, but ironically, I think this widens the gap between how others perceive us and who we really are. Instead of fostering connection, it can invite projection and misinterpretation—preconceived notions, prefab labels, and stereotypes. Worse, individuality has become branded and commodified, reducing our identities to products for others to consume.
On most platforms, validation often comes from how well you can curate and present your image—selfies, aesthetic branding, and lifestyle content tend to dominate. High engagement is tied to visibility, not necessarily depth or substance. But I think spaces like PI.FYI show that there’s another way: where connection is built on shared ideas, tastes, and interests rather than surface-level content. It’s refreshing to be part of a community that values thoughts over optics.
By sharing so few images of myself, I’ve found that it gives others room to focus on my ideas and voice. When I do share an image, it feels intentional—something that contributes to the story I want to tell rather than defining it. Sharing less allows me to express who I am beyond appearance.
For women, especially, sharing less can be a radical act in a world where the default is to objectify ourselves. It resists the pressure to center appearance, focusing instead on what truly matters: our thoughts, voices, and authenticity. I’ve posted a handful of pictures of myself in 2,500 posts because I care more about showing who I am than how I look.
In trying to be seen, are we making it harder for others to truly know us? It’s a question worth considering.
Dec 27, 2024