first things first: u never have to forgive someone if u don’t want to. sometimes there is no reason to not move on from a situation, but that’s still your right. you should take all the time u need to make peace with urself and what happened. my dad once told me that the worst thing you can do to urself is to wish someone else ill will. giving ur energy and thoughts to a situation or person in a way that doesn’t help you process what happened, but only serves to make u upset, is a disservice to urself and ur time. u deserve to be happy and u deserve peace. look of it as a way of letting go of the negative thoughts and emotions that that situation causes u. forgiving someone doesn’t necessarily mean ur justifying what they did, but instead respecting ur right to be happy. u can forgive someone and still not continue that relationship with them. seeing forgiveness as a way to allow urself to grow past a situation and not define urself by it, instead of as a mandatory ritual after someone has wronged you, has helped me to move past people and situations that have hurt me and kept me from growing.
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this was so incredibly insightful and the best thing to wake up to thank you so much. the last sentence is incredible and means so much
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@YLIANNA i’m glad my yapping could help omg đŸ«¶đŸ›
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wow i probably should’ve read this before writing mine because we pretty much said the same thing but yours is actually well written 😭😭
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@CHOC_ORANGE i just read urs and i thought u were well spoken too!! we both be forgiving or whateverrrr đŸ€
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Living life independent of grudges, while often difficult, is an essential component of spiritual freedom. Forgiving those who have hurt you allows for positive connections to be fully received with an open heart. Forgiving yourself protects you from the burden of toxic shame, and allows you to look forward to the prospect of self-improvement.
Jan 2, 2024
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some people do things that are truly unforgivable and only time will heal the pain that those things caused because with time comes memory loss. for the petty things, they usually don’t know or care that they’re not forgiven and holding onto the thing they did only hurts you because you’re reliving what they did and they probably aren’t. i’ve forgiven a lot of people for shitty things they’ve done, that doesn’t mean i’ll ever speak to them again. forgiving isn’t always making up with the person, it’s making mental peace with the issue.
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doesn’t have to be for the peace and gratification of the people you forgive; it can be for yourself where you recognize that they’re not part of your life anymore, there’s nothing you can do to change what happened, and you don’t have to let them continue to make you suffer from anger. I love Tara Brach’s guided meditations on this and on letting go. I think also anger is often a protective emotion that covers deeper more vulnerable emotions like feelings of betrayal, shame, sadness, etc. You might find these hiding under your protective shell if you look for them. I would recommend to people struggling with anger and resentment to also try doing chakra yoga starting at the root and working your way up because this will address and help to clear up some of those underlying feelings first so that you can process in a more clear way. And Thich Nhat Hanh’s book on anger is great!
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i was diagnosed with dysthymia when i was a sophomore in high school. this means i’m especially prone to mild long term phases of depression, lasting from a couple of months to years in some cases. it really sux, but this year, i‘ve finally felt strong enough to get through and cope in a healthy way if i ever go thru another depressive episode. however, that doesn’t mean im not still scared of it happening. :( its still tough, but at least i know in the back of my head that i will always survive.