My 20s has been spent on developing myself as a grown kid outta high school becoming a young independent adult, turning 20 doesnāt have to mean that a perfect life should be sorted out for you. It means that you have more independence and capacity to forge your own life, at your own pace, even if it will take until your 30s. After all, weāre all forms of ephemeral art
Apr 27, 2024
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Whatever life you envisioned for yourself, your 20s are when you find out if itās viableāor what you really want. Money and time matter way more (in my experience), and your friends live further away. You get to do whatever you want, which is amazing and awful.
Expect to hear about peers working their dream jobs while living in inhumane conditions, discovering lifelong passions and quitting their ambitions, and re-making all the choices that seemed permanent at the time. Maybe by 35-40 you can expect consistency, but in the next twenty years your peers will go through a lot and change even more.
Just remember that only having a kid and back issues are forever. When in doubt, find a mentor or a role model. Focus on the present if you can, and journal if you can find the timeāit helps.
Leaving you w/ this pic of sandāa symbol of the passage of time which is most beautiful when observed closely.
Apr 27, 2024
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Congrats on making it thru your 20s. I used to be really anxious about turning 30 but I think thatās because people around our age are using the milestones of yesteryear (having a house, family, etc.) to measure our sense of self worth.
Iāve come to accept that placing any expectations on where you Should Be or what you Should Have by a certain age is an unreasonable and frustrating way to live life. the older you get the easier it is to to radically accept where ur at in life.
Iāve since turned 31 which I think is an even funnier age and I feel like Iām more relaxed and at peace with myself then ever. I donāt really feel confused or like there is anything I need to āfigure out,ā which is how I and probably how most people feel in their 20s. i have perspective on life that feels earned thru personal experience and that isnāt derived from cultural/intellectual consumption.
Also I think itās important and liberating to lean in to being āoldā and āwashedā and out of touch. Youāre free! Let the kids buy JNCOs. Enjoy yourself. life is short.
Jan 8, 2025
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Man when I was 21 I thought I had it all. Had friends I would go clubbing with every weekend. Was in a happy relationship with a woman who I thought was THE one. My artistic career in college was taking off, I was getting gallery calls left and right, people were recognizing my hard work and skills. Lived in a dogcrap apartment but still made enough to live on my own and bought the car I still drive today (5 years later) for $3K in cash.
Turns out things can change, you grow out of friend groups, you move back home from college, good relationships can still fall apart, your art career has ups and downs and you donāt get the amazing job immediately after you graduate. Life is never simple. Tomorrow is never promised, sometimes things work out sometimes despite how hard you try, they donāt. The biggest lesson I learned back then though was itās ok to not have everything figured out. Iām still figuring things out at 26, and Iām content with that.
Jan 22, 2025
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Sometimes itās just more comfortable than sitting on chairs
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Any song, really
Dec 15, 2024
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Sometimes I just need a break from the hustle and bustle of life and to sit on the grass or bench in a quiet park. Listening to the leaves rustling in the breeze and the birds tweeting brings about a sense of calming throughout my body that feels so recharging for my soul.
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