Your first heartbreak is always so tough, but you’ll get through it and be better for it!! They say that however long you were with someone, it takes that same length of time to get over them, so don’t get discouraged if the healing process feels slow! Put all the energy that you gave to them back into yourself - take yourself on dates, throw yourself into your hobbies, enjoy being in your own company. It takes time, but you’ll get through this 💖
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As someone who is maybe 2ish connections removed from the situation Im assuming you may be referring to… I am so deeply sorry 💔 hope you know that there are many strangers out there who are rooting for you and think you deserve to be happy and treated well, despite being strangers …
As someone who has been through a lot of heartbreak, the advice already given in previous comments is really great . I think in my experience, having 1 or 2 friends that you know really love you and get you, that you can spend time with even if you are really sad and not contributing much, was helpful. If you feel the need to talk about your feelings try to keep it to those people, or a journal. Once you start to feel a little better going out with more people and being more social can really help remind you of what is valuable about YOU.. what YOU enjoy and bring to the world..
Above all it helped me to remind myself that life is going to go on. You will move on, no matter how long it might take. It might feel like the worst thing in the world but i promise you will get through it. It’s just a matter of time :) be kind to yourself while time passes. I cant emphasize enough how deeply I have felt so heartbroken I thought I couldnt go on. Multiple times. Yet here I am.. and you will be okay too ❤️
Mar 3, 2024
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i think what helps/is “best” depends on the breakup and the timeline.
if it’s like, three months and your main approach is still distraction that may make it harder in the long run. but in the first few weeks i think it’s okay to just distract yourself! i also think what is helpful is a mix of distractions. so maybe at the worst moments watch a sitcom, but at other times it may be helpful to read or watch media about heartbreak.
it’s nice to feel seen / see how others get thru it, even fictionally. i love to watch fleabag. 10 love poems and a song of despair and crush are two beautiful poetry collections.
a small ”girls”/friends night at home can be nice because it will be both fun and you’ll get an opportunity to talk things through with friends. + therapy is always another talking option, both in the cases of if the relationship wasn’t the best or if you’re just having a really hard time (which is valid!)
one of my heartbreaks was sorta a similar situation to yours (she got with the person she told me not to worry about right after!) so i want to say 1) i know the feeling sucks and i’m so sorry! and 2) it’s totally possible to get through this moment, and you will ❤️🩹
i also wrote some advice on working thru heartbreak a while back! 🩹 space, music, journaling, hobbies https://www.pi.fyi/rec/clwha3jpj02x510qsyswdwxjg
Aug 8, 2024
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i wish we could meet irl and distract from our broken hearts a little bit by doing things together and hug.
im experiencing the same thing rn (devastating and out of the blue) and it helps me write down everything, every thought, word, idea, emotion that i feel i need to write it down.
i’ve seen my friends every day, i’ve watched movies, i’ve read a lot. i know it feels like it’s not going to get better but i promise it will. is reminding yourself that everything passes, let all the emotions pass through you. it’s reminding yourself that -new and goods things are coming to you- though i know it’s really hard and painful to think abt yourself in a future where that person is no longer there. :-(
i understand how painful time passes, how painful it is to think about that person and all the attached memories, but it’s time to think about all the new memories YOU are going to create, that life is painful but not that much, it’s time to cry it all, and to get things done. little by little, days pass and the pain will start to fade away, sometimes you’ll be alright, sometimes you won’t, but is all part of the process.
i’m sorry you are experiencing that horrible thing called heartbreak, i hug u wherever you are. 🫂
Apr 18, 2024
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