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I used to be so scared of going out alone or doing anything alone. But some of my hobbies do not match with my friends so I was either gonna do them myself or not at all.
If you want to go see a movie go do that, it really gives you a big push and makes you feel so much better.
Yes, you do need your friends and close ones but you don’t have to rely on them to go do something that you’d want.
I went to a concert a couple of weeks ago alone, which was the first big thing I did alone and it really showed me that I can do it! Punch your anxiety in the face lol
Start with small stuff and make your way up! Highly recommend
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As an Only child that’s struggled with social anxiety since forever, i have always enjoyed going to shows & functions & restaurants & doing whatever by myself. Im used to it & it’s natural & comfortable. I’m consistently reminded how ironically this behavior has both filled my life with such amazing people & has helped practice how I show up in social settings & lessen anxiety. feeling grateful this sunday
Nov 10, 2024
So many people are so scared to do things on their own, but it can be so fun and liberating! I’m my own favorite travel partner. You can try fun places without worrying about what someone else is in the mood for, meet so many people, people watch, read, visit museums Or other stops and take all the time you want, etc. I think a lot of people care too much about what others think when they’re seen doing something or dining alone, but in the grand scheme of things it doesn’t matter. Starting out, go to a restaurant that has a bar and sit at the bar, you can enjoy your food and maybe a drink, if you get anxious about people talking to you or aren’t having fun people watching, take up watching the sports on the tv to look occupied! Or maybe your solo outing could first be taking yourself on a museum date and getting to spend as much time as you want in each exhibit.
Jan 18, 2025
This is actually so easy and yet.
You're capable of meeting all of your own needs and when you accept this (and expect this people are just automatically drawn in.
If there's a movie you wanna go see, make the plan to go see it by yourself, and next time you're in a group of people (at work at a bar whateva) share with the group that you're going to see the movie on this date at this time and anyone is free to come.
You'll be surprised at how many people will join on things. And any time anyone doesn't, it's nothing to you bc you were gonna go by yourself anyway.
People are just really scared to invite people to things and even more scared to invite themselves. So just be the person to invite. If they come that's gorgeous if they don't that's also gorgeous you get to see the film either way (or go to the concert or museum or whatev)
Feb 15, 2025
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I’ve been on like 5 bumble dates till now and two of them were the worst experiences ever, the other three were ok.
I feel like there is a pressure on everyone to find someone, this pressure came upon me thanks to my therapist🥰✌️🥰✌️🥰she said to me, you are going to uni and never been in a relationship wtf is wrong with u🥹❤️🥹❤️
sooo I stumbled upon bumble and other dating apps and my first date was me getting sexually assaulted 😋😭😔🤪🤫💕😬🇺🇸
then somehow I continued going on dates with just girls bc fuck men am I right? and they were just basically a waste of time 😁
now after my fifth and hopefully final date from a dating app, I am officially quitting this. I feel so worthless trying to show myself off by just some lousy pictures and a one liner that says nothing about me.
I just want to live on my own and like someone not by how they want to be seen, but how they actually are
I feel so ashamed of even being on a dating app sometimes, that I get depressed. I get this feeling that I am superficial and just desperate for attention. I need the validation of someone I don’t even know to feel like I am worth something.
Not being loved till now has made me feel like I am worth nothing, that nobody will ever want me or need me. That is why I continue doing this shit and I am stopping TODAY
wish me luck😬🥰🚬🥺🤪🚬😬👈🥰🦅😮💨
Aug 15, 2024
go in the water, come back to the shore, sit under an umbrella and read your book while you listen to the sound of the sea crashing onto the shore
and repeat.
Aug 19, 2024
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From a very young age I had trouble keeping friends, especially friend groups. Somehow I always ended up out of the group and just wondered why.
I guess these experiences made me fear forming new relationships. I always start out distant with people bc I know they’ll leave me one day 😁 and I always fear getting attached to someone bc you’ll never know what might happen
But when someone sticks through my distant phase and actually becomes a good friend of mine my fear doesn’t go away;)
I feel like every minor thing they do they are bored of me and are gonna become distant
yes I have attachment issues and no I don’t have a therapist so I am just rambling about it here 🙌
ps. I have exactly 3 close friends and I love them very much<3
Aug 18, 2024