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I’ve been on like 5 bumble dates till now and two of them were the worst experiences ever, the other three were ok.
I feel like there is a pressure on everyone to find someone, this pressure came upon me thanks to my therapist🥰✌️🥰✌️🥰she said to me, you are going to uni and never been in a relationship wtf is wrong with u🥹❤️🥹❤️
sooo I stumbled upon bumble and other dating apps and my first date was me getting sexually assaulted 😋😭😔🤪🤫💕😬🇺🇸
then somehow I continued going on dates with just girls bc fuck men am I right? and they were just basically a waste of time 😁
now after my fifth and hopefully final date from a dating app, I am officially quitting this. I feel so worthless trying to show myself off by just some lousy pictures and a one liner that says nothing about me.
I just want to live on my own and like someone not by how they want to be seen, but how they actually are
I feel so ashamed of even being on a dating app sometimes, that I get depressed. I get this feeling that I am superficial and just desperate for attention. I need the validation of someone I don’t even know to feel like I am worth something.
Not being loved till now has made me feel like I am worth nothing, that nobody will ever want me or need me. That is why I continue doing this shit and I am stopping TODAY
wish me luck😬🥰🚬🥺🤪🚬😬👈🥰🦅😮💨
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Wouldn’t say I’m desperate, but I’m actively interested in a relationship, trying to move on from a past too complicated and dark to describe on here, but I feel that having that bond with someone and making endlessly fun memories would be a huge benefit, as well as sharing a part of yourself with someone who’s really special and deserving of it.
I know I’m not that bad-looking of a guy, but I haven’t really had much luck on the apps, tried to curtail my profile to be more appearing, whole nine yards. It’s getting to be a bummer.
Should I ditch the app and just let fate take its course?
Feb 16, 2025
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I’ll be candid here. I hate the dating app. I hate myself when I use the dating app. I hate the cutesy little prompts, I hate MARKETING myself. I hate the people on the dating apps, and I hate myself even more for hating these people, because they’re probably good people just looking for connection just like me. “Just like me.” How disgusting. Just acknowledging that right there fills me up with this acid reflux bile that I can’t shake. The dating app is inherently antisocial. I don’t care that it’s the norm now, that doesn’t magically make it prosocial. You know what else is a norm right now? Mass insemination of cattle via automated semen guns shooting frozen seed into these poor cows that have never seen the light of day, that can’t begin to fathom the complex constructed around shooting frozen seed into their cow uteruses so they can give birth to calves that they will never nurse. Taking those calves & chaining them to the ground from the moment they’re born so their meat is tender when they are turned into veal.
20 years ago the idea of meeting people on the internet was rightfully scorned as the pursuit of perverts & malcontents. The ”match” system, trying to offload the pain of rejection to this incredibly diffuse open market where you only get feedback if it’s positive. It’s all so cowardly. Christ, theyre selling us an analgesic for our cowardice. And I don’t know, I think if you’re going to pursue someone, really go after them, you have to abandon your pride, your shame, and the things that turn you yellow. Yeah yeah you start talking and dating and then eventually you have to do the actually important and courageous thing and open yourself up to someone else or whatever. Don’t care, the set-up bothers me on a spiritual level.
So anyway, I just got back on the apps this week. I really think it’s gonna go down different this time.
Feb 27, 2025
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Everyone disappoints me in ways unimaginable. I’m honestly aghast and disturbed by the men I have encountered on these godforsaken apps. And the worst part of it all is that now I’m spiraling about the concept of true love, family, and motherhood. What a wonderful way to end my work week.
The moral of the story is listen to what everyone tells you: just stop using the apps. It’s never going to work.
Feb 14, 2025
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go in the water, come back to the shore, sit under an umbrella and read your book while you listen to the sound of the sea crashing onto the shore
and repeat.
Aug 19, 2024
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From a very young age I had trouble keeping friends, especially friend groups. Somehow I always ended up out of the group and just wondered why.
I guess these experiences made me fear forming new relationships. I always start out distant with people bc I know they’ll leave me one day 😁 and I always fear getting attached to someone bc you’ll never know what might happen
But when someone sticks through my distant phase and actually becomes a good friend of mine my fear doesn’t go away;)
I feel like every minor thing they do they are bored of me and are gonna become distant
yes I have attachment issues and no I don’t have a therapist so I am just rambling about it here 🙌
ps. I have exactly 3 close friends and I love them very much<3
Aug 18, 2024
I used to be so scared of going out alone or doing anything alone. But some of my hobbies do not match with my friends so I was either gonna do them myself or not at all.
If you want to go see a movie go do that, it really gives you a big push and makes you feel so much better.
Yes, you do need your friends and close ones but you don’t have to rely on them to go do something that you’d want.
I went to a concert a couple of weeks ago alone, which was the first big thing I did alone and it really showed me that I can do it! Punch your anxiety in the face lol
Start with small stuff and make your way up! Highly recommend
Aug 5, 2024