Start a long binge worthy show, watch that and distract yourself.
I do believe in the fact that you gotta go through it somehow but distracting yourself is not running away from your problems if you are at a safe space like your own home where you can weep and cry freely.
Definitely talk to some casual friends that you very rarely see about the breakup. I know that might seem odd but talking to people I rarely see rather than my best friends that I see very often helped me keep their name out of my mouth and that helped keep them out of my mind.
Go to new places, discover. Adventure out alone and cry at different places, you are going to be sad no matter what, why not change the scenery.
I chose to distract myself most of the time in order to avoid getting depressed so I laid off the sad music and listened to podcasts for a while. I recommend Emergency Intercom!!
And if you want, pick up tennis or some other physical activity that you can channel your anger and feelings through.
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i think what helps/is “best” depends on the breakup and the timeline.
if it’s like, three months and your main approach is still distraction that may make it harder in the long run. but in the first few weeks i think it’s okay to just distract yourself! i also think what is helpful is a mix of distractions. so maybe at the worst moments watch a sitcom, but at other times it may be helpful to read or watch media about heartbreak.
it’s nice to feel seen / see how others get thru it, even fictionally. i love to watch fleabag. 10 love poems and a song of despair and crush are two beautiful poetry collections.
a small ”girls”/friends night at home can be nice because it will be both fun and you’ll get an opportunity to talk things through with friends. + therapy is always another talking option, both in the cases of if the relationship wasn’t the best or if you’re just having a really hard time (which is valid!)
one of my heartbreaks was sorta a similar situation to yours (she got with the person she told me not to worry about right after!) so i want to say 1) i know the feeling sucks and i’m so sorry! and 2) it’s totally possible to get through this moment, and you will ❤️🩹
i also wrote some advice on working thru heartbreak a while back! 🩹 space, music, journaling, hobbies https://www.pi.fyi/rec/clwha3jpj02x510qsyswdwxjg
Aug 8, 2024
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for me it has been helpful to frame it as getting through heartbreak rather than over - i’ve felt it is more of a journey rather than having an identifiable threshold or fixed point of being “over” the person. so - these are my main recommendations for things to do to get through the heartbreak:
this isn’t true for everyone, but for me and most people i know, one of the worst things for processing is being around the person a bit right after—it‘s like making your emotional process and brain not be on the same page—so space is probably the #1 thing i recommend as being useful to fully processing that you’re not together romantically.
music (also films/shows too) can help you feel seen and understood—heartbreak is a unique type of hurt. i have like 3-4 playlists from different heartbreaks i have been thru lol!
journaling, to process your emotions solo, though sometimes adding a therapist is needed!
hobbies (solo or with friends) so you can find ways to do positive & engaging things in your increased spare time! spend some extra time being in love with yourself. ❤️🩹
source: my personal misfortunes, trials, & tribulations in love
May 22, 2024
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i find that hanging out with friends helps me a lot, like the people that really make you laugh and feel good about yourself. that being said, it is totally okay to wallow in the sadness and feel it, because that is the only way it will ever pass. i would play sad music from a playlist and allow myself to cry for the duration of the playlist, then when it was over i would get up and try to do something else. this helps set a boundary while allowing you to feel the emotions and still be productive. also, find things that you love doing. for me, it was anything creative. making art that reflects how i'm feeling was a great outlet. eat good food, cry, hangout with friends, go to bookstores, cry, go to art galleries, redecorate your room, treat yourself to some new clothes, cry, do some yoga, go on an outside walk/hike, cry. and then wake-up every day and do the best that you can. it really does get better, i promise. sending hugs, you got this!!
Jun 20, 2024
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