IDK most thread answers here seem idealistic. Sometimes people know exactly how they are contributing to the conflict and are counting on your grace to bulldoze whatever it is they want to achieve. Don't ever acuse or jump to conclusions but always respectfully lay out their words / behavior back to them and basically let them know that you already know what the fuck is up. Maybe they are doing it somewhat unconsciously, maybe you understand, however an empathetic but straightforward read of what you are seeing and hearing from them reflected back goes a long way. sometimes you even come back stronger
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i wish people were better at this. big sign of emotional maturity i think is when people are actually capable of this. things happen and if you can’t talk them through what are you meant to do? just let it stew so it gets worse? let it destroy a relationship for no reason? fuck all that. have the conversations so you can reach an understanding. we can’t read eachothers minds man
Jun 10, 2024
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As Otis said, 'try a lil tenderness'. It's amazing how much people can soften when you give them attention, affection, and your own calm energy! Sometimes I think people that are prone to yelling is because they have a complex about not being listened to so if you just start off by giving them your undivided attention, it may catch them off guard, but they won't have anywhere to yell really?
When all else fails in and things get heated, always bring people back to the goal. What have we set out to do and how can we make it happen, even with these new problems? Put feelings/who's at fault/frustration aside and treat everything as a creative problem that can be solved with a creative solution. <3
Oct 4, 2024
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In my experience what works best specifically w public conflict
- only intervene physical harm is eminent or if truly nasty language is being used loudly
- keep in mind your safety comes first (you can’t rescue someone if you’re drowning yourself)
- if there’s a window where you’re able to speak to someone one on one and check in consider doing that
It’s really tough seeing any form of that in public bc you dont know those people you don’t have necessary context
And even with the best intentions getting involved will escalate the situation either in the moment or for the ppl arguing later behind closed doors
Imo unless you’re certain someone is going to be physically harmed its best not to step in…
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