things ive found have helped:
- doing less during the day. ik this isnt always an option cause we all have to work, but if you do have things taking up energy that you can cut out, i recommend working towards cutting it
- try to not put as much pressure on yourself. you cant run a marathon if you havent started small. sometimes i just try to draw something on a post it note daily
- (my favorite) write down the basic thoughts during the day, expand them when you have time. i have a note on my phone full of random thoughts and words and when im feeling stuck, ill go through and pick out the easiest to start working on. for example, i have āhandsawā directly above āthe pornification of violenceā obv the second is a much more intense and āworthwhileā as a concept, but it is easier to doodle whatever āhandsawā means. its also so fun to have a huge list of the batshit looney things that have crossed my brain, because when i feel empty and heavy i can look at it and remember that i do have creative ideas.
- give yourself grace. being a creative is exhausting. its okay to feel utterly overwhelmed by life and the pressure to create. our bodies tell us what we need, and if you need a nap, honor how you feel and spend some time resting <3
Nov 25, 2024
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Obviously weāre all so different, but that also means itās hard to give advice because how we process stress / how it manifests physically / how we soothe it can vary so much from person to person, and even season to season. Iāve learned to take advice and TRY EVERYTHING until I find what works for me. In my experience itās better to try 10 different things to weed out what works for you than to pick & choose what you think will work. Just try whatever is feasible from what we recommend!
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Microdose gummies were a huge help for me in certain seasons. I am not a person that wants to get high; I donāt have anything against it, just donāt do it myself. The microdose is so so so low that you donāt feel it. If anything, the ones I took felt like a light melatonin feeling. Helped me calm down a lot and often helped me sleep.
Baths were huge in certain seasons. Add some salt, dim the lights, play some ambient sounds or your fav calm album, and fully submerge into the void.
Long drives are how I make sense of lifeās puzzles. I often take the long way home if I think the extra time will help me arrive at a calmer state. I always find myself enjoying the local traffic, getting to really look at my surroundings, using red lights to breathe and refocus my thoughts.
3 practical things that are relatively easy to do. I think anxiety / stress rob you of your time and energy. Iāve spent so much of my life under stress only to get through the very thing that stressed me and realize that I had nothing to worry about. I lost days, weeks, maybe months to stress and anxiousness. At this point in my life Iām very aggressive about not living life with stress or anxiety in the drivers seat. Itās my life to enjoy and I only get one and I want as much of it as possible to be filled with joy / happiness / peace. Hope that helps! Sending you good thoughts + prayers + vibes.
Apr 10, 2024
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i like to ask myself āhave i eaten within the last 4 hrs? have i drank enough water? am i overwhelmed by my environment?ā and making sure those things are taken care of helps a lot with my own irritability that i didnāt realize was there.Ā
taking a short 5 min. walk does a lot for ur mood, especially in the sunlight (as cliche and overused that advice is). and if i have no more energy and all else fails, i force myself to take a nap. when i canāt sleep, i do breathing exercises, and that helps me feel more calm too.
i hope that helps a little bit!! i feel ur struggle and i believe in u š«¶š good luck
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I really struggled with all the unstructured time post-grad and my body totally flipped like what do you MEAN I have nothing to do and if I do nothing, nothing will happen? This rec is annoying, but as a skilled layabout, it really helped me overcome the whole āwhat do I do all dayā thing and also the āwhy am I falling asleep at 3 AM and waking up at noon?ā thing to make a loose schedule and try to adhere. If youāre applying for jobs, school, or even just pondering what to do next, think about:Ā
At what time during the day do I feel most awake and alive? Then, block out like four hours around that window. I try to do 90 minutes of focused work at a time with like 60 minutes between for chilling.Ā So, if you can start with two little blocks of working on applications or doing some intentional, focused pondering, great. Gradually, you can increase the amount of work if you want.Ā
Then, plan the rest of your day around things you need and want to do - move your bod, eat, socialize. Things like talking a short walk in the morning to get some sunlight, going to the movies, and calling friends, lighten me up!Ā Ā Keep it simple babe!Ā
Post-grad, I laid on a couch for three months in stay at home girlfriend mode totally consumed by fear. I asked a lot of older people how they figured things out and they told me that nobody ever does. I like to do some meditations on intention and listening to yourself (linked). And I agree with capyboppy...try to stay present and pay attention to what you got going on right now! The weight of future is heavy becuase you probably want your life to be sick and meaningfulā¦.and thatās cool.
Jun 11, 2024
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Aug 16, 2024
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itās such a awkward marker of a new year. a weird mix of wanting people to celebrate you, but feeling tired of the obligation to thank everyone that only reaches out once a year.
i always find birthdays really hard, and fairly disappointing.
my recommendation is to give yourself grace, and do what makes you happy. i know itās such a generic rec but this past year on the actual day i just took it easy, treated myself to some takeout, and watched a show in bed. a few days after i got together with friends and we went to a restaurant i love but theyād never really wanted to go to. and then we ate homemade cake and watched a movie.
sorry if this isnāt a very upbeat response (: <3
happy birthday!! and know random people on the internet are celebrating you (:
Jul 30, 2024