āRather than letting our negativity get the better of us, we could acknowledge that right now we feel like a piece of shit and not be squeamish about taking a good look.ā - Pema Chƶdrƶn
Iāve just lived one of the hardest years of my life. There were many days that I cried or felt numb or found myself praying to an interventionist god I do not believe in. In short, things have sucked.
But there are also good days. Days with a lot of laughter with friends, or cuddles from my cats, or some new piece of art that heals me. Itās not all bad, just as it will never be all good.You have to make peace with this fact because there is no other choice. You donāt have to be happy about all of it, but make peace. Experience all that life has to offer and it will transform you.
āThings falling apart is a kind of testing and also a kind of healing. We think that the point is to pass the test or to overcome the problem, but the truth is that things donāt really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. Itās just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.ā
Dec 5, 2024
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Firstly, big warm virtual hug. Close your eyes and feel it š«
The book Iām recommending was such a comfort for me in a hard time, and I hope it is for you too.
I donāt want to move too far into Therapy speak but I have to make very clear to you, somebody telling you that you will never be loved is an abusive statement. That is like a curse being placed upon you. That seed is planted in your heart and everything gets filtered through it. And itās not TRUE! ITāS NOT TRUE!!! ITāS NOT TRUE!!! You need to deal with that. And you will. I believe in you.
Nov 4, 2024
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my love and I parted ways a few months ago after our 5th anniversary. has truly been the hardest period of my entire life to slowly pick up the pieces and move on, a process that is nowhere near over even as much as I want it to be.
my biggest piece of advice is to surrender to the pain. donāt let yourself be drawn into anger and hatred, just let the crumbling happen. let the tears flow! talk to your friends about it over and over again. sit in silence with the people you love. fall asleep on the couch once in a while.
donāt bother with āwhyā ā itās a useless question, trust me.
Feb 20, 2025
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honestly it really made me understand my autonomy and the larger role i play in shaping my own life. iām in complete control of the life i want to build and nurture.
life is hardālike, really fucking hardāand thereās no rulebook. weāre all just figuring it out, and thereās no one ārightā way to do it. for me, itās been helpful to focus on my values and what truly makes me happy and/or brings me joy. when do i feel most at peace? what makes me feel loved? how do i stay grounded? so when life inevitably gets toughāand it always doesāi have tools to navigate it and avoid feeling soā¦shitty.
there was a limit to how much i could lean on my support system. donāt get me wrongā my friends, family, and community were so critical for me during this time, but i had to be honest with myself: i needed professional help š
. now, iām here, feeling like i can actually liveāand enjoy life.
ditto to what everyone has said above. sending virtual hugs š©·š«š©·
Dec 4, 2024
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āWe live in a world in which we need to share responsibility. Itās easy to say āItās not my child, not my community, not my world, not my problem.ā Then there are those who see the need and respond. I consider those people my heroes.ā
ā Fred Rogers
3d ago
I havenāt been on Twitter for years and hardly touch FB, but I had been an active user on Instagram since 2012. I really like taking and sharing photos, and that had always been a fun place to do it.
No more.
With the changes the content moderation changes theyāre making, leaving LGBTQ+ folks vulnerable to be targeted; their rolling back of DEI programs; their willing participation in far-right rhetoric and politics; itās all too much and Iām out.
As if Metaās platform hadnāt already been increasingly enshittified, this was the final straw to announce how much worse it will get.
And you know what? It feels freeing. Better to leave it behind and find new platforms to connect with people.
Jan 22, 2025
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The guy got my attention with, āHey, I like your shoes.ā Just like that, he had me. We talked about where I bought the shoes and how I used to work in the shoe industry. He used to work in the beer industry but had recently become independently wealthy because of an investment opportunity he started with a few of his friends.
āYou get to be your own boss,ā he told me. Your boot could be on your own neck. Weāre back to the topic of shoes.
He told me itās a small investment to get started but things are really taking off and I could get in on the ground floor. I could quit my job. Work for myself. Had I ever considered doing something like that?
āNo,ā I said with a shrug. I walked away with my jar of peanut butter. I canāt remember if it was creamy or crunchy. Probably crunchy.
Nice guy!
Feb 25, 2025