when things are just going so well that you get scared as hell waiting for it all to fall apart. It’s a normal feeling, but a dirty, nasty thief of joy. Don’t let it convince you to borrow grief from the future and ruin the now.
also, I moved a hell of a lot growing up too and I also thought I wanted to root myself in one place forever and ever when I “grew up” — it was just an outsized response to the reality of my moment. As an adult, I get itchy when I stay in one place too long and I’m realizing that a substantial part of who I am will always have 1 eye on the horizon. I’m figuring out how to make peace with that now. I’m also leaning into the fact that I am much more comfortable with change than most of my peers! it can be a super power if you let it :)
Dec 29, 2024
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(this is late but IDC!!!) i’m such a big homebody, and when i move somewhere i like to make a nest out of wherever i live (ie decorate and get comfortable) and thats the only way i can make a space feel okay to me. it’s been hard bc i’ve moved places every year for the past 4 years, and now it’ll be even harder because i’m moving AGAIN short term and then travelling around a bit (also maximalism and moving around this much does NOT mix!!!) feeling at home is really important to me but i know i won’t be staying anywhere long enough to really settle in, so i’m terrified!! but i want to be able to create a sense of home within myself and maybe through a few comfort objects. think this would be handy in future as well!! don’t know how i’m gonna do this but ya that’s my tea 💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽
Jan 26, 2025
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I have the worst fear of staying in one place for too long (both literally & metaphorically) but I think what’s even more dangerous than that is the desire to stay in that rut forever even though it’s not serving you !! That happens to me because I’m so scared of failing or to be seen trying for something but not reaching it in the end.
I am feeling so inspired after coming home from a concert & I am allowing myself to bask in that sense of renewal !! Like wow it’s okay that I want to write again despite not doing so for months now! It’s okay that I’m getting into photography again after not honouring my commitment to practise it in the past few months! I am learning more and more from personal experience + observation that some doors only open at the right time and there are times when the right thing to do is to actively pursue something, while there are times when we have to sit still + wait and see
Jul 17, 2024
i think settling into your life is a feeling that creeps up on you. as someone who struggles with being present, i need to constantly practise gratitude or even my dream life kinda passes me by. i think it's human nature to be constantly looking for the next best thing, but it takes a lot of awareness to realize you've already made it on so many facets. thinking about my younger self and the pride they'd feel looking at present me is grounding and brings me lots of perspective.
Feb 18, 2025
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at least casually. don’t delete the accounts but don’t have the apps on your phone either.
rediscover your love of reading thru the magic of recognizing titles strangers are holding on the subway. become a subway reader.
don’t use sound as an escape from your thoughts/feelings/surroundings. grocery shopping without headphones is actually kind of beautiful!
pick up a new hobby or two or three. one of them should be something you’re not good at, and at least one should be no- or low-cost.
never. stop. learning. the library, the parks and rec department, and nearby museums offer great materials already but also usually have free lectures or courses.
go outside more. like, a lot more.
(took this much less literally, so apologies if it’s not what you’re looking for lol — as a narcoleptic I have no tips on how to Not Sleep since Sleep is basically my job)
Sep 30, 2024
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destined in the stars
Jan 1, 2025
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keeps it funky, keeps it fresh! a book for outside, a book for downstairs, a book for bed, a book for the subway, a book for the bathtub…..
Nov 30, 2024