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Nuance

I’ve been working on trying to resist internet pile-ons, and not in a contarian for contrarian’s sake way. I think it’s more interesting to find out what’s actually happening and search for context and perspective. There’s usually a lot more to each story and it leads to more interesting ideas and conversations. Allowing for more empathy and forgiveness toward others also ultimately leads to more grace for yourself when you make a mistake. Sometimes people are jerks and sometimes people say the wrong thing and sometimes people run with something without understanding what someone is actually saying. I’m resolving to look for nuance first before assuming the worst.

@Shadowbeni

Mar 20, 2024

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thinking critically about how we consume media + Learning from it

as someone who’s realized they are chronically online (i hate it trust me), i’ve realized that all the media consumption really has caused me brain rot lol. with that being said, i’ve been trying to watch documentaries and movies that are normally out of my comfort zone to not only learn new things but also to help me with forming thoughts about *said* things because…sometimes i go with what people are saying online because a bunch of people are saying it (once again i hate it too trust me) all this to say, dont knock something till you try it - it’s good for your brain and your soul to develop opinions

@nicoledominique

Mar 2, 2024

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anti-rec / pet peeve — Mind reading

It really cheeses me off when people think they know what others are thinking or what makes them tick or what their motivations are for something. Recently heard someone say, "Oh the whole reason 'Brad' did good at [this thing] is because he got social validation from his success." And I said, "Oh really, did Brad tell you that?" And of course the answer was no, Brad never said that. It was just a great big assumption about Brad's motives—and a negative assumption at that. You contain multitudes. I contain multitudes. We contain multitudes. We are right now the living, breathing, growing sum of a trillion different factors. It is far more interesting and fulfilling to be curious and ask and be surprised than to project our narrow, limited assumptions on others. (apparently this is a bit of a theme for me today since I already posted about it in another form) And if you find yourself mind reading and assuming and putting others in a box, then you know what, no worries! Me too sometimes. But let's not stay there.

@mattshawsome

Oct 19, 2024

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buying myself flowers

i cried all night, i deserve this today

@chiawase_

Feb 10, 2025

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Exploring femininity

As a child growing up with brothers and as the fat black kid, i never considered myself feminine. Even when i lost weight in middle school and went to an all girls high school, looking girly or being more “feminine” was just not something i thought about. I feel like recently, i wanted to explore that more, as this pull to dress and appear more feminine has become super strong. Having a house to decorate in any way I can, actually starting to feel better about my body to wear skirts again, etc has really influenced me. But my fears are that it may portray trad wife or child’s play; I’m nervous of stares or being questioned about my views if i were to give such a strong appearance of a girly woman. But some of my inspirations have been strolling through vintage creators and small japanese insta accounts with super pink and fluffy aesthetics. Hopefully i will build up the courage

@chiawase_

Jan 5, 2025

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Chicago!

was there for 3 days to see a friend, and I loved the sites and the hospitality I received. I was trying to find my hotel and an older man saw me confused and he offered to walk me to the street where my hotel was. I was surprised, but thankful. Also public transportation was so accessible there. I’m hoping to see my friend again this year, and i hope to do more there. Plus i was not able to see the whole art museum

@chiawase_

Jan 15, 2025

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