i constantly have to remind myself that i have just as much of a right to be in spaces as other people do. i think a lot of my issues with taking up space came from feelings of guilt and shame that started when i was a kid. as i’ve gotten older i’ve realized that i haven’t done anything wrong and don’t need to feel that way. challenging those thoughts for me usually looks like joining conversations that spike my interest and actively participating, going to events that i like even though i might not feel like they’re made for me (like concerts where the crowd is 80% men), and by dressing how i want to. my clothes are a huge reflection of me and for a long time i was afraid to wear what i wanted because of how my body would be perceived. however, i noticed i’m much more comfortable when i’m in clothes that i like, so now i wear what makes me feel happy and that’s improved my mood in general. you don’t need to feel shame or guilt. you deserve to be happy and enjoy your life and take up as much space as you’d like :)