Wear clothes that fit and drape well on your shape. Replace sloppy looking or worn out staple pieces with things that look a little more intentional and serious but are still comfortable and feel true to you (ex: instead of sweatpants wear pull-on cigarette pants). Wear fewer accessories and let the simplicity shine through. A nice signature scent might help.
Keep your skin clean, moisturized, and exfoliated (try peel pads like the ones from First Aid Beauty or Nip/Fab). Wear sunscreen or whatever 🙄 If you wear makeup, do a tinted moisturizer, use an angled brush to fill in your brows with cool-toned shadow for some light definition, curl your lashes, wear mascara, wear a flattering shade of red lipstick and pat that lipstick onto your cheeks as blush—maybe do a shimmery pale or a smoky brown shadow tapped onto the lid with your fingertips (cream shadow is great for this) + some pencil eyeliner at the roots of the lashes and on your upper waterline.
Keep your hair looking as clean as you possibly can. If you’re using dry shampoo, do it preemptively before you go to sleep to absorb oil rather than in the morning when you wake up—spray it all along your roots and massage it into the hair in the morning. I actually do not brush my hair because it stretches it out and makes it lose its shape; I put it up in a bonnet when I go to sleep to keep it from getting tangled but still looking tousled, textured, and voluminous at the roots. I do comb through it with my fingers and I use a wet brush before I shower, as I rinse, and when I condition. My wash routine lately has been Trader Joe’s cleansing conditioner then Giovanni 2chic ultra moist shampoo!
Learn to style your hair with a round brush (I know this is a really tough one but it makes a big difference)!!!! I really enjoy the hot styling brush tools but they’re apparently damaging to the hair because they have no heat settings and they put a lot of tension and friction on the hair. If you have a few hundred to drop though I’ve heard great things about the Shark FlexFusion and FlexStyle. But whatever you do… use a heat protectant.
I style my hair if I have somewhere important to go but otherwise I do air dry— I put it up in a cotton T-shirt to soak up most of the water—and I use an air drying crème while it’s still damp. I think having a good hairstylist is also really important and will take you a long way. My relationship with mine is probably one of the most precious things in my life and I’ve been going to him for about three years now.
I’m honestly never going to look put together like other people seem to naturally be able to do and I’m always going to remain feral on some level but this is what works for me! My version of doing the bare minimum 🫶
Feb 4, 2025
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Precious hairdresser relationship is so real ❤️ i met mine around 2016 and have slowly been making everyone I know go to him. We (me and mouse) went on holiday with him and his husband the other year!
caskeyc stop that’s so CUTE!!! My friends all want to see my stylist when they visit me bc he just has the master touch. Vitally important relationship!!!
taterhole that is so lovely. Yes, it's one i hope to hold onto for a long long time!!!
caskeyc me too I truly hope my hairstylist can continue to be mine until the day he retires and he has told me not to ever let anyone else touch my hair but him 🥹🫶
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Taking care of yourself can feel hideously step-by-step now… scientific and ingredient-laden. Brushing your hair still feels whimsical and wild! It’s genuinely a therapeutic process for me, I think because I have a lot of hair and untangling it sometimes requires brute force and since there is a clear before and after to behold, it always makes me feel better if I’m feeling low. There’s a lot of propaganda around messy hair (Chloe S., French women), but life is about getting to know yourself. So if you’re feeling burnt out on cold little serums and vials of goo (all love though) or are tired of letting the rats' nests rule, try brushing your hair more. Caveat that you need to find the hair brush that works for you—doesn’t have to be made of boar bristles and mother of pearl,I like the OG brush from Olivia Garden over at Ulta.
Mar 27, 2023
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I used to be a blunt cut bob girlie but have changed my ways the last two years,
Protein & Moisture; super important, these two helped w strength & retention
protein treatment every 6 weeks followed by deep conditioner same day, hair mask once a week (something w NO protein!! just moisturizing)
Reducing heat and manipulation; heat style twice a week maximum if you can help it with the help of good heat protection (NO OIL PROTECTANTS!!! Kenra professional has my fave products - the blow out spray is amazing & worth its price) use sleep styles to protect your hair (im curly but do a blowout once a week- I maintain it by using a oversized pillow scrunchie at the top of my head pineapple style and my hair wrapped around the actual scrunchie- play around with it & how you sleep + how you want it styled in the morning + make sure that your hairline isn’t getting tugged around) itll prevent damage from heat constantly, friction from sleeping and i promise will make mornings way easier.
Scalp care: Rosemary oil will be your best friend!! Studies came out that it’s similar to 2.5% minoxidil - which is a OTC hair loss treatment. Mix oil of choice w dried rosemary (add dried buckroot & mint if you wanna get fancy, olive oil and jojoba havent steered me wrong yet!!) I like to do a cold infusion which can take two weeks but it’s cheaper and I know what’s going on my scalp. Put it on your scalp and massage for a few minutes, leave on for a few hours but if you want you can overnight, use a clarifying shampoo & follow up with protein/moisture depending on where you are in the cycle!
Taking care of my scalp, reducing hair & tbh- taking a solid multivitamin helped me a lot!
Products I luvvvvv;
Kendra Blowout Spray
Kendra Blowout Lotion
Rosemary oil DIY
Satin pillowcase & oversized scrunchie (you can find these on Amazon or Ulta! They will be life changers….)
Also- silk/satin scrunchies over regular hair ties, try to avoid any tension :)
Feb 21, 2024
Over the last half a decade, i’ve come to embrace my curly hair and have garnered some ritualistic practices when it comes to my hair. here are some things I wish I would’ve known sooner, see photo for credibility:
- DO NOT use Shea Moisture, it’s waxy and will build up. Of course it’s different for everyone(particularly people with Black hair), I just find that line of products to be too heavy, and it leaves my hair looking dull.
- I genuinely like john frieda’s frizz-ease line for frizz, but the best thing you can do to combat frizz as previously mentioned, is apply a generous amount of leave-in conditioner after styling products.
- I prefer to plop for 10-20 minutes(put my hair in a t-shirt headwrap) and air dry after that. I’ve gotten the best volume and styling results with this method.
- If you can’t afford the good stuff(like that fancy K18 or Davine’s stuff my hair dresser wants me to use) splurge on a good mask. I use a nice mask once a week to remove and buildup from the week before and it leaves my hair feeling refreshed!
- Broken record i’m sure but get a hair dryer! I was hair-dryer-averse for many years and recently got one to help with volume. It takes me maybe 5-10 minutes and my hair ends up looking incredible!
Jul 22, 2024
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My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebody—be it a relative or one of my best friends—was to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too 💌
Feb 23, 2025
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Feb 27, 2025
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I’ve been thinking about how much of social media is centered around curating our self-image. When selfies first became popular, they were dismissed as vain and vapid—a critique often rooted in misogyny—but now, the way we craft our online selves feels more like creating monuments.
We try to signal our individuality, hoping to be seen and understood, but ironically, I think this widens the gap between how others perceive us and who we really are. Instead of fostering connection, it can invite projection and misinterpretation—preconceived notions, prefab labels, and stereotypes. Worse, individuality has become branded and commodified, reducing our identities to products for others to consume.
On most platforms, validation often comes from how well you can curate and present your image—selfies, aesthetic branding, and lifestyle content tend to dominate. High engagement is tied to visibility, not necessarily depth or substance. But I think spaces like PI.FYI show that there’s another way: where connection is built on shared ideas, tastes, and interests rather than surface-level content. It’s refreshing to be part of a community that values thoughts over optics.
By sharing so few images of myself, I’ve found that it gives others room to focus on my ideas and voice. When I do share an image, it feels intentional—something that contributes to the story I want to tell rather than defining it. Sharing less allows me to express who I am beyond appearance.
For women, especially, sharing less can be a radical act in a world where the default is to objectify ourselves. It resists the pressure to center appearance, focusing instead on what truly matters: our thoughts, voices, and authenticity. I’ve posted a handful of pictures of myself in 2,500 posts because I care more about showing who I am than how I look.
In trying to be seen, are we making it harder for others to truly know us? It’s a question worth considering.
Dec 27, 2024